if my perspective or judgement is off. On Christmas Day I was at my mom's. My baby cat, Sammy (who is 10 lbs and about 7) was on my lap cuddling. My exSIL, K, sat down on the couch and my bro, C, sat on the floor. As SOON as their daughter, M, came in Sammy got up and went out of the room. He went under or behind anything that would hide him. K and my bro commented on it. C said something about her being rough with his border collies, though the momma collie is mostly outside or in the garage. The daddy is his 1st baby and sleeps with-him. He commented how rough she was with the dogs. K said that M is really rough with her dog, and she feels bad because it is such a little dog and M just grabs hold of the fur and pulls her around. The little dog is a shih tzu. M is 5 and in kindergarten. WAY more than old enough to know to be gentle with animals, in my opinion. When I see her grab the cats it is ALWAYS rough. They don't scratch or bite her, and they are always allowed to go hide in Grandpa's room. But her parents' dogs are not allowed to go hide from her. The border collie bit thank you when he was about 2. ANYTHING I said about the dog needing to not be around my child was "over-reacting". But my child barely touched the dog - I was right there and saw it! (I wanted the dog totally retrained, but again, just over-reacting Susie). M has been seriously bitten by 1 dog, an elderly dog she grabbed very roughly and my bro almost killed the dog. She has been snapped at by both of bro's border collies. And bitten 2 times when she yanked on the daddy - once on his private parts. These were considered teh DOG'S fault. Is it just me or does this child need to be SERIOUSLY worked with by her parents, or in homes with NO animals? I see it as being seriously unfair to the dogs. We still have the backyard breeder thing with my bro (to my eternal embarrassment - he still REFUSES to spay the momma or neuter the daddy - he didn't learn this from our parents!) One of the dogs is going to hurt her. Hurt her badly maybe. And it will NOT be the dog's fault. It will be her PARENTS' fault for refusing to see any problem. If one of the cats scratches her, it is NEVER her fault, it is because the cat is being mean. HOW do I get through to my bro that he is setting his daughter up to be hurt?? My cats are gentle. They cannot stand her. They come out for the washing machine repairman, and HIDE from her. It is one reason I will not babysit her - just not fair to my animals. Am I wrong? If not, is there anything I can do?