that difficult child would flip out last night knowing that it was one of the two confirmation nights and he will not be doing it. I prayed last night that he would hold it together and not get into trouble by focusing on what he was missing out on. They called today to have family therapy and he is still doing well. He did keep it together!!! and he said that it isn't bothering him that he will just do it when he comes home. Therapy today was intense though--I felt like I was being attacked by both difficult child and husband mostly about me protecting all the kids by not letting husband's side of the family or bio-dad's side know what is really going on with the family. I told him the momma bear always protects her cub.The therapist wanted to know how come my parents and some family know everything and I told her it is because they treat all for kids the same way and do not discriminate. They try to support all four.--not good timing after husband's accusations toward me about his mom and we just found out last night that husband's cousin only has a few days to live (he was best man at our wedding)--we did not tell difficult child yet. husband is still trying to grasp it. Unfortunately we do not know where he is living or a phone number or nothing.