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I'm s. tired of living this way! During one of recent large scale meltdowns I removed all the remotes to the PS2 . I told difficult child that access to this would be completely removed until his displays of violence are under control. ( The games he plays on it are all war games, Call of Duty, Modern Warfare etc.) This morning he started off ok. he was reading on my tablet and a little later we sat down together and played a couple of games of backgammon. Every so often he was asking if he could play video games. I answered, "yes, on the Wii." Of course, that is not what he was looking for. All the kids have chores on the week-end and we were trying to get them going on them. Naturally it's not too popular with any of them. difficult child started squawking that he was't going to do them, although he did go down and bring up his clean clothes to his room eventually, even if he didn't put them away.
I got into some head butting with my oldest. It was a stupid, typical loud power struggle with a 16yr old (Jo) but naturally given difficult child already being in a rumbling stage, he drew himself into it and started swearing. My eldest started yelling at difficult child and I'm sure you can all imagine how it deteriorated from there! difficult child knew that the remotes were in Jo's room and was determine to search it, Jo naturally didn't want him in there. They got physical, we intervened. difficult child started on his path to destruction (OMG u should see his room now!). These days I don't cope very well so I went off to shower leaving husband to handle things., when I came back out difficult child had gone off rip-sticking in the rain. When he arrived back I greeted him and explained that we were heading to an electronics store to replace his sis's cell phone and did he want to come. He agreed.
Off we went. it took forever!!! There was only 1 person working in the dept. and we decided to update mine at the same time by taking a family phone. (GHG was also offered a phone but insisted he did not want one.) difficult child was bored within 15 minutes. still he did pretty well because I kept suggesting that he head to various spots in the strip mall, first to run an errand for me, next to go look for new runners, next to go get sandwiches at Subways, and finally by offering to head over to the mall next to find the runners ( excuse me, Skate Shoes) that he wanted... you get the picture.
Any ways, I thought we had managed pretty well, but..
As soon as we were home he started in again about the video games. I gave him exactly same answer as earlier which of course he still didn't like. he started complaining, alternately about wanting to play videos and being hungry ( get a snack, the ribs will take a while). fast forward, Sis was heading to her room and difficult child decided to block her way, she screeched, he slapped her 3 times, we intervened, things got ugly. ( I think he did something to my bedroom door, but I refuse to go look right now. Things have calmed down again, I don,t know why, but if anyone speaks, he tells them to shut up.
So, now we are 5 family members, each plugged into various electronic, husband and I are into the wine and I'm afraid to call everyone to the table because then there will be interaction and I don,t think I can stand it!
Whew! I need to get all that off my chest. Ok, I'm going to be a brave lady and announce, dinner. Wish me luck, Lynne
Whew,
So
I got into some head butting with my oldest. It was a stupid, typical loud power struggle with a 16yr old (Jo) but naturally given difficult child already being in a rumbling stage, he drew himself into it and started swearing. My eldest started yelling at difficult child and I'm sure you can all imagine how it deteriorated from there! difficult child knew that the remotes were in Jo's room and was determine to search it, Jo naturally didn't want him in there. They got physical, we intervened. difficult child started on his path to destruction (OMG u should see his room now!). These days I don't cope very well so I went off to shower leaving husband to handle things., when I came back out difficult child had gone off rip-sticking in the rain. When he arrived back I greeted him and explained that we were heading to an electronics store to replace his sis's cell phone and did he want to come. He agreed.
Off we went. it took forever!!! There was only 1 person working in the dept. and we decided to update mine at the same time by taking a family phone. (GHG was also offered a phone but insisted he did not want one.) difficult child was bored within 15 minutes. still he did pretty well because I kept suggesting that he head to various spots in the strip mall, first to run an errand for me, next to go look for new runners, next to go get sandwiches at Subways, and finally by offering to head over to the mall next to find the runners ( excuse me, Skate Shoes) that he wanted... you get the picture.
Any ways, I thought we had managed pretty well, but..
As soon as we were home he started in again about the video games. I gave him exactly same answer as earlier which of course he still didn't like. he started complaining, alternately about wanting to play videos and being hungry ( get a snack, the ribs will take a while). fast forward, Sis was heading to her room and difficult child decided to block her way, she screeched, he slapped her 3 times, we intervened, things got ugly. ( I think he did something to my bedroom door, but I refuse to go look right now. Things have calmed down again, I don,t know why, but if anyone speaks, he tells them to shut up.
So, now we are 5 family members, each plugged into various electronic, husband and I are into the wine and I'm afraid to call everyone to the table because then there will be interaction and I don,t think I can stand it!
Whew! I need to get all that off my chest. Ok, I'm going to be a brave lady and announce, dinner. Wish me luck, Lynne
Whew,
So