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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 626775" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>I walked in your shoes, I counted down until my son was 18 even though the problems worsened at 18. My life was a nightmare and I get what you're going through. I will tell you what I did. I got a restraining order and didn't see my homeless son for years. I was so painful, but until I did that, he had no reason to change. Once he knew he was on his own, and he was all alone, he made the moves, he got the jobs, he lived in a flop house with bedbugs, one that he paid for....at that point he knew it was all up to him. Slowly, in baby steps, he came back in the fold of our family. He is only 27 right now, so it didn't take a huge amount of time to come to this realization,but it had to be HIS realization, not my lecturing and enabling and yelling and making deals and stuff. Right now, he's a union carpenter, is doing well, married to a beautiful woman and expecting my grandaughter. I will absolutely credit that restraining order to his success. He would most likely still be living on my couch doing nothing with his life if I allowed it. Don"t ever do that, it is hurtful to do, but will have a huge payout for you all. Hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 626775, member: 2668"] I walked in your shoes, I counted down until my son was 18 even though the problems worsened at 18. My life was a nightmare and I get what you're going through. I will tell you what I did. I got a restraining order and didn't see my homeless son for years. I was so painful, but until I did that, he had no reason to change. Once he knew he was on his own, and he was all alone, he made the moves, he got the jobs, he lived in a flop house with bedbugs, one that he paid for....at that point he knew it was all up to him. Slowly, in baby steps, he came back in the fold of our family. He is only 27 right now, so it didn't take a huge amount of time to come to this realization,but it had to be HIS realization, not my lecturing and enabling and yelling and making deals and stuff. Right now, he's a union carpenter, is doing well, married to a beautiful woman and expecting my grandaughter. I will absolutely credit that restraining order to his success. He would most likely still be living on my couch doing nothing with his life if I allowed it. Don"t ever do that, it is hurtful to do, but will have a huge payout for you all. Hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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