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<blockquote data-quote="tryagain" data-source="post: 626862" data-attributes="member: 14865"><p>Momjane, you are not alone. I also have a 20-year-old who would put holes in the wall and cause me to park down the street in fear, and I would post on this website from there. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child suffers from bipolar disorder and until she began complying with her medications just recently, the last five years had been hell on earth for me. As I read the description of your scenario, I wondered if your son has ever been under the care of a mental health professional? I know that without my difficult child's psychiatrist, she would not be functioning at all. </p><p></p><p>The compassionate people on this forum have read about my ups and downs with the havoc and heartbreak this girl has caused me. They have given me words of wisdom which I have reread over and over. </p><p></p><p>Learning to detach from difficult child helped me keep my sanity. When the worst of it all was going on, removing myself mentally and emotionally was difficult to do, yet very necessary. So I agree that baby steps are necessary, and a good first baby step would be to read the post on detachment which appears first on the parent emeritus list. </p><p></p><p>First I even feared detaching, because it seemed so unnatural. But you've got to remember that you also have an unnatural situation going on here. Stepping back and taking care of yourself does not mean that you no longer love your child. We all love our children dearly. But when they will not help themselves, we have to help ourselves.</p><p></p><p>I also want you to know that there is always hope. Hope for healing. Hope for peace. Hope that our difficult child's will see the light and realize that their lives can be better if they will make needed changes.</p><p></p><p> After a suicide attempt three months ago and mental health intervention, my difficult child finally realized that something would have to change and began adhering to her medication schedule. There is still drama, but nothing like before. I am aware that any given day could bring regression, but I agree with COM, it is a blessing that we cannot see the future because it would overwhelm us. </p><p></p><p>Momjane, keep coming to this forum and posting because you'll find caring hearts and wise minds here. I know I have.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryagain, post: 626862, member: 14865"] Momjane, you are not alone. I also have a 20-year-old who would put holes in the wall and cause me to park down the street in fear, and I would post on this website from there. My difficult child suffers from bipolar disorder and until she began complying with her medications just recently, the last five years had been hell on earth for me. As I read the description of your scenario, I wondered if your son has ever been under the care of a mental health professional? I know that without my difficult child's psychiatrist, she would not be functioning at all. The compassionate people on this forum have read about my ups and downs with the havoc and heartbreak this girl has caused me. They have given me words of wisdom which I have reread over and over. Learning to detach from difficult child helped me keep my sanity. When the worst of it all was going on, removing myself mentally and emotionally was difficult to do, yet very necessary. So I agree that baby steps are necessary, and a good first baby step would be to read the post on detachment which appears first on the parent emeritus list. First I even feared detaching, because it seemed so unnatural. But you've got to remember that you also have an unnatural situation going on here. Stepping back and taking care of yourself does not mean that you no longer love your child. We all love our children dearly. But when they will not help themselves, we have to help ourselves. I also want you to know that there is always hope. Hope for healing. Hope for peace. Hope that our difficult child's will see the light and realize that their lives can be better if they will make needed changes. After a suicide attempt three months ago and mental health intervention, my difficult child finally realized that something would have to change and began adhering to her medication schedule. There is still drama, but nothing like before. I am aware that any given day could bring regression, but I agree with COM, it is a blessing that we cannot see the future because it would overwhelm us. Momjane, keep coming to this forum and posting because you'll find caring hearts and wise minds here. I know I have. [/QUOTE]
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