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<blockquote data-quote="momjane" data-source="post: 626882" data-attributes="member: 17981"><p>Thank you Stress Bunny and try again for your words of wisdom <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>My son was tested gifted in grade three and we had a heck of a time with getting him through school. He was constantly in trouble and only when he landed in a hs where they had the amazing staff that showed understanding and patience, did we get some support to move him forward. Everyone said he was too smart, too charismatic and he shouldn't under achieve as he was. No one ever mentioned adhd! I am a social worker and I hate myself for not picking up on it! So last year in paid out of my pocket to take him to a private clinic where they diagnosed him. He went along with it, even took the medications for a bit but they really were not for him. I even noticed that they weren't. What he should have done is go back and talk to his Dr. But he won't. I still don't know if the diagnosis is correct or if he is just exhibiting the giftedness issues as they are very similar to adhd. He is just so complex!! It's just such a mess of things! </p><p></p><p>He has mental health issues on dad's side and this has always been a concern. I have spoken to him about seeing his Dr but once again he is resistant. </p><p></p><p>He has been in and out of the house all weekend. He won't eat or shower here. He came over and was in the garage last night and I tried to talk to him. Told him I am sorry for how he is feeling and that we would always love and support him. He has said he is moving out and I said we would support him with that decision. It got ugly of course with him accusing me of giving up on him because I refuse to change and now he has to move out for his sanity. That I've ruined his future. I told him I have done my best and he yelled at me that he didn't give an eff about the 95% I did right as long as I wasn't doing the other 5%. So perfection is what he wants. He also yelled at me for running to my support system and calling my mother when he's on the phone with her and talking to his step mom. Told me to effing take his support system if that is what I want. </p><p></p><p>He is so hateful and mean towards me. It has been a horrible weekend and my will to truly live is gone. I feel like I am just going through the motions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="momjane, post: 626882, member: 17981"] Thank you Stress Bunny and try again for your words of wisdom :) My son was tested gifted in grade three and we had a heck of a time with getting him through school. He was constantly in trouble and only when he landed in a hs where they had the amazing staff that showed understanding and patience, did we get some support to move him forward. Everyone said he was too smart, too charismatic and he shouldn't under achieve as he was. No one ever mentioned adhd! I am a social worker and I hate myself for not picking up on it! So last year in paid out of my pocket to take him to a private clinic where they diagnosed him. He went along with it, even took the medications for a bit but they really were not for him. I even noticed that they weren't. What he should have done is go back and talk to his Dr. But he won't. I still don't know if the diagnosis is correct or if he is just exhibiting the giftedness issues as they are very similar to adhd. He is just so complex!! It's just such a mess of things! He has mental health issues on dad's side and this has always been a concern. I have spoken to him about seeing his Dr but once again he is resistant. He has been in and out of the house all weekend. He won't eat or shower here. He came over and was in the garage last night and I tried to talk to him. Told him I am sorry for how he is feeling and that we would always love and support him. He has said he is moving out and I said we would support him with that decision. It got ugly of course with him accusing me of giving up on him because I refuse to change and now he has to move out for his sanity. That I've ruined his future. I told him I have done my best and he yelled at me that he didn't give an eff about the 95% I did right as long as I wasn't doing the other 5%. So perfection is what he wants. He also yelled at me for running to my support system and calling my mother when he's on the phone with her and talking to his step mom. Told me to effing take his support system if that is what I want. He is so hateful and mean towards me. It has been a horrible weekend and my will to truly live is gone. I feel like I am just going through the motions. [/QUOTE]
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