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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 626886" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Momjane,</p><p></p><p>in my first post on this forum I said I had decided to commit suicide if my son died on the street. I understand the dark place you are in. You are right to seek professional help. I also really support the other recommendations that you try to find group support (although we are awesome group support right here). This is a hard journey. </p><p>Here is the thing...you cannot control your son, his choices, or what comes out of his mouth, which frankly is wildly inappropriate and cruel. You can control how much you expose yourself to this abuse, and how you choose to interact with him. It may be that by not allowing him to treat you this way he will get better. It may be that he will not. All you know for sure is that what you have been doing, all the running and the effort and the love and the experts and the patience and the abuse-absorption...have not brought you one step closer to the results you desire and deserve. It makes sense to try a different course.</p><p></p><p>You've been given good advice here. It is great that he is moving out of his own volition, however angry and ugly he is making it. Help to make sure that happens. Change the locks the minute he leaves...in all seriousness. </p><p></p><p>Once he is out you will be better able to center yourself. It is very hard to do in the midst of the abuse he is showering on you. How soon is he going? Please keep us informed, and keep posting. We will help you step by step.</p><p></p><p>My son is 20 as well. </p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 626886, member: 17269"] Momjane, in my first post on this forum I said I had decided to commit suicide if my son died on the street. I understand the dark place you are in. You are right to seek professional help. I also really support the other recommendations that you try to find group support (although we are awesome group support right here). This is a hard journey. Here is the thing...you cannot control your son, his choices, or what comes out of his mouth, which frankly is wildly inappropriate and cruel. You can control how much you expose yourself to this abuse, and how you choose to interact with him. It may be that by not allowing him to treat you this way he will get better. It may be that he will not. All you know for sure is that what you have been doing, all the running and the effort and the love and the experts and the patience and the abuse-absorption...have not brought you one step closer to the results you desire and deserve. It makes sense to try a different course. You've been given good advice here. It is great that he is moving out of his own volition, however angry and ugly he is making it. Help to make sure that happens. Change the locks the minute he leaves...in all seriousness. Once he is out you will be better able to center yourself. It is very hard to do in the midst of the abuse he is showering on you. How soon is he going? Please keep us informed, and keep posting. We will help you step by step. My son is 20 as well. Echo [/QUOTE]
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