This was in response to how Goneboy wife called the nursing station after I had my accident and spoke in detail about my condition to the nurses. Before you think "how nice that she was concerned" she wasnt. My ex asked her to call and find out what was going on. HE was concerned, not her, but she is a surgical nurse and somehow got the nurses to talk to her. My ex told me she did it because HE wanted to know. Because she is a nurse he begged her to call. My other kids who were there figured out who the nurses were talking to and told husband who told them that Devil Wife and Goneboy were not to be given information about me so that ended it. I never so much as got a card from them after that. This wife had encouraged Goneboy to be rid of me and he had complied. By the way wasn't giving Devil Wife information about me against HIPPA? Asking ex later on if either one ever asked how I was doing after the accident, he said no. I asked him to please not involve them if anything else happened to me again. He agreed. He has tried to get these two to stop the estrangement against me and his other kids, but he refuses to discuss it as does his wife. They barely see ex too. Anyway after we took Goneboy out of the will I wrote a short letter something like this. Goneboy (no dear) It has been over ten years. You asked to be free and you are. That means you will be barred from information about me if something happens and your dad asks your wife to call the hospital. That means you can't visit the hospital either. That means if you get a pang of guilt or regret later, it is too late. I have been hurt too much for too long and will not risk my heart again. I am grateful to those I love who love me and makey life the best. Good bye. (No signature) It was a hard decision to send this. I am sharing only because all of us understand hard decisions, not for feedback. To me their abuse was extreme. Not allowing me to know my grandchildren at all is not a forgivable act. And it could never turn into a relationship of any trust. I'd be walking on eggshells and I won't. They were not coming back anyway but a small part of me feared they would. Yes, the idea scared me and the other kids all swore they would never speak to him. It would have been ugly. My kids are protective of me, particularly Bart and Jumper. My husband is too. I am relieved I sent it. I sent it for myself. Yes...I also included a sentence about the will. The entire torture of the Goneboy estrangement will never be told here as it would take a novel to write. But now I can type the last page of the novel. THE END It's finally over and I had a bit of power finally. I was the one who closed the ten year long open door. It is now double locked from abuse Ok. Just sharing. I have no regrets.