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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 5958" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>My 5 yo difficult child is very much like that... everything is a struggle. When she is exploding right before she starts attacking me she will smile, but I have realized she really isn't smiling or laughing, none of this is fun mostly, for them, The smile is like a release or reaction for her. It is kind of a crazy reaction and I have read that kids will laugh smile and do things like this, but remember sometimes it may not be funny to them. </p><p></p><p>I try to give difficult child 2 choices, we have constant struggles with every thing we do, it is a nightmare, so I say do you need help with your clothes or can you do it this morning? Do you know if you can do it this morning, here are your 2 choices.... Or she picks out the clothes the night before. Do you want to shower or take a bath??? If she is SO out of control that she is becoming violent or too upset sometimes we have to skip brushing our teeth or I bring it into her bedroom, or we don't take a bath. I choose my battles wisely now... clothes, food, noise,stimulus etc. All of these things mean something SO much differently to kids with behavior issues.</p><p></p><p>When thay are this young you have to stay calm and remember you are trying to help them through something tough. </p><p>They usually have too much going on, too many choices, too many feelings etc. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes we have to adapt to them alot, regardless of what husband says!!! My husband has learned that it is not her fault and she is not doing it on purpose and it helps...</p><p></p><p>Good luck</p><p>breathe</p><p>hang in there</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 5958, member: 3155"] My 5 yo difficult child is very much like that... everything is a struggle. When she is exploding right before she starts attacking me she will smile, but I have realized she really isn't smiling or laughing, none of this is fun mostly, for them, The smile is like a release or reaction for her. It is kind of a crazy reaction and I have read that kids will laugh smile and do things like this, but remember sometimes it may not be funny to them. I try to give difficult child 2 choices, we have constant struggles with every thing we do, it is a nightmare, so I say do you need help with your clothes or can you do it this morning? Do you know if you can do it this morning, here are your 2 choices.... Or she picks out the clothes the night before. Do you want to shower or take a bath??? If she is SO out of control that she is becoming violent or too upset sometimes we have to skip brushing our teeth or I bring it into her bedroom, or we don't take a bath. I choose my battles wisely now... clothes, food, noise,stimulus etc. All of these things mean something SO much differently to kids with behavior issues. When thay are this young you have to stay calm and remember you are trying to help them through something tough. They usually have too much going on, too many choices, too many feelings etc. Sometimes we have to adapt to them alot, regardless of what husband says!!! My husband has learned that it is not her fault and she is not doing it on purpose and it helps... Good luck breathe hang in there [/QUOTE]
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