klmno
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Actually, this is about the sd psychiatric's report. The sd wanted a chance to address my concerns and revise the report before pursuing an IEE and I agreed, with the understanding that I might still pursue an IEE. One of my comments (in writing) was that the report included a 'significant episode of aggression toward a peer outside of the school setting', and I knew of no such incident so I ask her to remove it. She has sent me a revised report, which frankly I have not read yet- I just received it this weekend. She also sent a letter addressing each one of my comments. She says in her letter that she was not going to take that out because my report to the neuropsychologist 3 1/2 years ago says that I reported that to her. I went back and read the neuropsychologist report done in March, 2006. It says "difficult child threatened to hurt a friend with a knife". Ok- that is true- he told me that if the guy did something to him he would hurt him with a knife. This sd psychiatric says "this is two incidents now (she's referring to him pulling a knife on me) where difficult child has had incidentes of threatening to harm someone with a knife so I will not take it out". Well, am I being too "cushy" to view it entirely different if a 5th grader tells his mom he'll hurt a boy with a knife if he does something and pulling a knife out on someone?
Then, she says something about the home sd might want to do a Threat Assessment on difficult child. Ok, well the only person difficult child has ever actually cut or hurt with a knife has been himself. Her report makes NO mention of his actions to hurt himself or indications of self-destructiveness. Yet, she's thinking the sd should do a threat assessment? I'm thinking he's had them (as in- determining if difficult child should be inn psychiatric hospital), and will get them again if deemed necessary, but determining whether or not he's a threat to self or others should be done bu mental health profs, shouldn't it? I have never heard of a sd doing that kind of assessment- has anyone here? He pulled the knife on me- why isn't anyone concerned that he'll do that again? I can understand if they are concerned that if difficult child did this to his mom and said it about a kid before, maybe he would do it to a kid at school. But that is not what her report says.
Anyone who read my first threads about this evaluation knows that I tried hard to be tactful about my concerns and not directly accuse her of being biased. I'm over that now. I'm going to write a letter back pointing out these things that indicate bias to me- unless you ladies believe I'm looking at this wrong. If so, please let me know so I don't make an **** out of myself. LOL!
If I pursue this, I also want to mention in my next letter that if they are including her letter to me and the initial (VERY biased) report in difficult child's sd record, they need to be including my correspondence to her about this, too. I bring that up because difficult child's home sd seemed to leave out my correspondence from difficult child's file. Also, it really irks me that this sd psychiatric assured me that she would read the complete neuropsychologist report but not include details from it in her report if I signed a release allowing it. I didn't want that because of personal family details that teachers previously tried to play therapist with difficult child about, but I agreed. Now I find she has conveniently forgotten that promise.
Seriously though, do you think I'm looking at this wrong? If she is going to include concerns that difficult child could hurt someone else, shouldn't she include concerns about him hurting himself if she's objective? Is difficult child as a 5th grader telling me that he'll hurt a boy with a knife (which he did not actually do or try to do by the way) the same as him pulling a knife on someone at 13-14yo? I'm not saying the initial threat wasn't concerning- if I thought that I wouldn't have told the psychiatric doing the neuropsychologist to begin with.
They sent a list of 4 names- 3 of which are in the same group practice, of who can/will do an IEE at a Department of Juvenile Justice facility. Obviously, the sd is not going to pay for full neuropsychologist evaluation so if these people only do the typical things a sd psychiatric does, will an IEE report be just as focused on difficult child's concerning behavior without looking at the other things? IOW, can I expect an IEE evaluator to do any more than report their concerns? You know, I had the same concerns, too, which is why I took my son to the best psychiatrist and MDE team in this state to evaluation him. I can't understand why these sd evaluators think they are more qualified to determine what difficult child might do in the future.
I'm so tired of fighting all these people- it really makes me want to just throw in the towel because I can't win it. But difficult child ...well....I know I'm telling the truth about him and he has no one else to tell the truth for him.
Then, she says something about the home sd might want to do a Threat Assessment on difficult child. Ok, well the only person difficult child has ever actually cut or hurt with a knife has been himself. Her report makes NO mention of his actions to hurt himself or indications of self-destructiveness. Yet, she's thinking the sd should do a threat assessment? I'm thinking he's had them (as in- determining if difficult child should be inn psychiatric hospital), and will get them again if deemed necessary, but determining whether or not he's a threat to self or others should be done bu mental health profs, shouldn't it? I have never heard of a sd doing that kind of assessment- has anyone here? He pulled the knife on me- why isn't anyone concerned that he'll do that again? I can understand if they are concerned that if difficult child did this to his mom and said it about a kid before, maybe he would do it to a kid at school. But that is not what her report says.
Anyone who read my first threads about this evaluation knows that I tried hard to be tactful about my concerns and not directly accuse her of being biased. I'm over that now. I'm going to write a letter back pointing out these things that indicate bias to me- unless you ladies believe I'm looking at this wrong. If so, please let me know so I don't make an **** out of myself. LOL!
If I pursue this, I also want to mention in my next letter that if they are including her letter to me and the initial (VERY biased) report in difficult child's sd record, they need to be including my correspondence to her about this, too. I bring that up because difficult child's home sd seemed to leave out my correspondence from difficult child's file. Also, it really irks me that this sd psychiatric assured me that she would read the complete neuropsychologist report but not include details from it in her report if I signed a release allowing it. I didn't want that because of personal family details that teachers previously tried to play therapist with difficult child about, but I agreed. Now I find she has conveniently forgotten that promise.
Seriously though, do you think I'm looking at this wrong? If she is going to include concerns that difficult child could hurt someone else, shouldn't she include concerns about him hurting himself if she's objective? Is difficult child as a 5th grader telling me that he'll hurt a boy with a knife (which he did not actually do or try to do by the way) the same as him pulling a knife on someone at 13-14yo? I'm not saying the initial threat wasn't concerning- if I thought that I wouldn't have told the psychiatric doing the neuropsychologist to begin with.
They sent a list of 4 names- 3 of which are in the same group practice, of who can/will do an IEE at a Department of Juvenile Justice facility. Obviously, the sd is not going to pay for full neuropsychologist evaluation so if these people only do the typical things a sd psychiatric does, will an IEE report be just as focused on difficult child's concerning behavior without looking at the other things? IOW, can I expect an IEE evaluator to do any more than report their concerns? You know, I had the same concerns, too, which is why I took my son to the best psychiatrist and MDE team in this state to evaluation him. I can't understand why these sd evaluators think they are more qualified to determine what difficult child might do in the future.
I'm so tired of fighting all these people- it really makes me want to just throw in the towel because I can't win it. But difficult child ...well....I know I'm telling the truth about him and he has no one else to tell the truth for him.
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