If I want to really communicate with-difficult child, I text him

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by TerryJ2, Mar 22, 2011.

  1. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Yesterday I was sicker than a dog, throwing up for over an hr. I asked difficult child if he could get himself to the bus, etc. He said, "I always do."
    I went back to bed.

    difficult child texted that there was a dead snake in the middle of the road. (That is such a boy thing!)
    I texted back that I had seen it and it was a green garden snake.

    He texted back when he was on the bus.

    Later that afternoon, he texted b4 he left school--How R U? Actually, he texted, ?Como estas? (Because of his Mexican girlfriend, it's all about speaking Spanish.)

    OMG, he actually asked about me. (Did h*ll freeze over?)

    I texted back, "Mucho mejor, pero no perfecto." (I have no idea if it's grammatical but it's close enough. :) )

    Then I texted, "by the way, tienes beisbol miercoles a seis." (You have baseball Wednesday at six.)

    I'm still in shock that he asked how I was.

    Oh, and his new girlfriend is named Emily. The other girlfriend said she was breaking up with-him because it was too hard to have a relationship when they couldn't understand one another. :(
    I mean, how poignant is that? She meant the language barrier, but even when both partners speak the same language, isn't communication the key to it all?

    AND he told me about it on his own!

    Excuse me while I wax philosophical ... ;)
    Last edited: Mar 22, 2011
  2. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    P.S. Thank d*G his girlfriend isn't French. I don't speak a word of it! LOL.
  3. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Wow! I don't care how, I'm just so happy you're able to communicate with each other!
  4. Andy

    Andy Active Member

    Wow - Good for difficult child!!! And good for you to pick up on the texting and use it as a tool!!!
  5. 4timmy

    4timmy New Member

    That's so awesome to hear!

    We have those kind of random breakthroughs once in a while as well. My difficult child sometimes likes to text me too. It is when we do this that I see his ability to communicate from a different perspective. He's actually very funny. (He's learning that from me) hee
  6. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Miss KT texts me all the time. That's the only way I know what's going on. That and Facebook.
  7. toughlovin

    toughlovin Guest

    I too have found that texting is sometimes the best way to communicate with my difficult child. Some of our best conversations (even though short) are over text.
  8. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    If I didn't have texting with Onyxx, I'd never know where she was.
  9. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Yeah, difficult child is way better than easy child at telling where he is and when he has arrived. Mostly because he's not very social ... he has friends, but it takes him mo's b4 he will want to do something with-them outside of school. And also because Electronics R Us when it comes to the way he communicates. :)
  10. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    How great that he is communicating! For us another good thing about texting is it is actually helping difficult child's spelling!
  11. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    OMG, so I am not the only one that communicates with difficult child via text? It is sooo much easier on me not to hear her voice. And we have MUCH better conversations through texts. Agreed!!
  12. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member


    Sharon, your difficult child actually spells things correctly? My difficult child uses slang and it makes me crazy. I have to text back that I will not make his dinner, or give him the TV cord, until he texts me correctly.
    difficult child: Dude I be hungry.
    Me: I be upset that you be too dumb to use the right words. Try again.
    difficult child: No.
    Me: I guess you're not that hungry.
    difficult child: I want McDonald's.
    Me: Oh, that's a bit better. How about please?

    He will do this ad infinitum in texting. If it were in person, we would come to blows.
    Go figure.
  13. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    LOL! by the way, did you get the please? Seriously my difficult child reads still at about a first grade level and his spelling is right there but over the last month we have been gone to a lot of rallies and so he has been communicating using texts and in that month's period of time it is amazing how much his spelling has improved!
  14. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Texting has its on language. I cu @ spr. Rents blah, HW :(
  15. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Yeah, it does - and some of the stuff Onyxx comes up with is insane. "Nicee", "Okayyyy", (what's with the extra letters?!)...

    I am one of those people who uses capitalization and punctuation in my texts. I will use stuff like by the way, Know what I mean? and LOL - but mostly, I type it out. I think it's a leftover from getting a degree in ENGLISH.

    Misspellings? OK, I can deal with those. Deliberate messes? Make me crazy.
  16. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member


    Sometimes I'll get "plz."