I got wind from county case manager yesterday that one of the advocates was not happy with me, and I probably needed to call her soon. So, I did. I last spoke to them after the last incident with Wee at school. At that time, they told me that one of them (the quieter one, I'll call her Adv A) would be out of the office all last week. The other (the one who is looking for a fight with the district's attorney to even the score from previous cases - I'll call her Adv B) could not work on the case til Oct 1 because of funding issues. So I was flying solo last week. Our plan, as of that conversation, was not to send Wee back to school because of the threat of juvenile involvement. They said, unless the school puts in writing they won't arrest him, he can't go. I agreed. We all thought it would be a cold day in hades before we got that in writing. Then I talked to the super of school, and its in writing. So I had to decide, on my own, if I was sending Wee or keeping him home. He wanted to go so badly, they had this Mr Para/Teacher guy, and I had in writing that they wouldn't arrest him, so I sent him. Adv B had written a letter for me to send to school, disagreeing with the IEP, stating that Wee woudn't be back, and asking for homebound services until they could get appropriate support for him, in light of the threat of arrest. Obviously, the dynamics of the situation had changed after I talked to the super, so I couldn't send that letter. I re-wrote it, left it mostly the same wording, took out what wasn't relevent, and added a few more things missing from the IEP (like what time he leaves school - they had the time wrong), and sent it. Since I didn't come to the office all last week, I didn't have access to a scanner or fax to get that info to the advocates, but I also was told they couldn't touch it til this week, anyway... On Friday, I left them voice mails and emails to conference call me when they could so I could update them both at the same time. So, since county case mgr said they were not happy with me, I just called Adv B yesterday afternoon. Adv A leaves the office at 1pm, so I knew I couldnt' get them both. Gave her the update, she said we wait on the FBA, and then make a plan from there... made no indication of being upset. I forgot to ask how long I should wait for a response from my letter regarding the IEP disagreement/changes. So I called Adv A this morning to ask. (Adv B has a medical test today and would not be available). Adv A absolutely read me the riot act and refused to answer my question until she could talk to Adv B. Lo and behold, an hour later, they conference me in on a call. Once I explained what had taken place and why I did what I did, forwarded them all of my documentation, and the fact that Adv A was out, and Adv B couldn't work on the case, anyway, Adv A backed off. We agreed I will write a letter asking for the FBA results ASAP, stating that I have not gotten any response from the letter regarding the IEP, and requesting we go ahead and schedule a meeting to go over the FBA results for 2 weeks after the FBA, since it tends to take us a week to get everyone's schedule in sync and we don't have time to waste on this. I feel like I must be the hardest person in the world to deal with. When I'm not fighting with the dang school, now I'm fighting with the dang advocates. I haven't even told them I'm looking for an attorney... I've never had so many relationships in conflict in my life, ever. Makes me think it must be me... Adv A was downright mad at me for not sending that letter that Adv B spent all that time writing, even tho sending it wouldn't have been right, either, cause a lot of what it said wasn't relevent since Wee was going back to school...its so frustrating. The good news is that the sped teacher called me last night. Wee's only issue yesterday was a minor issue on the playground...some boys teased him and it made him mad, tho he did not act out. Principal apparently came into the room after recess and saw him. She came back in before he was to go to his "reward" recess. SpEd teacher said she told principal that Wee earned the reward recess and would be going. Didn't even give her an option to say he couldn't go.