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If there is someone that would be my friend...I would be grateful.
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 654165" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Copa....what you just said is wonderful. Personally I think that (sustaining something good for yourself until the end) is a VERY large part of detaching. I think it goes further into letting all the baggage, dysfunction and overall crxp go emotionally etc....so not letting it drain us, bother us, depress us etc. so along with continue on, moving forward, setting and attaining our own goals even with our Difficult Child being Difficult Child, it is not letting their behaviors/problems burden us emotionally and so forth. This is probably the final step and super hard. I am usually good with it, but have my bad days. You didn't cause your Difficult Child to be a Difficult Child. You went above and beyond to give him a wonderful start in life. You believed in him and helped him. You corrected where you may have made mistakes and gently encouraged him to go forward. When that didn't work, you pushed harder. But, as we have all learned here, you can't do the work for him. He's an adult and he makes his own choices. We have to make our personal choice to move forward.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 654165, member: 4152"] Copa....what you just said is wonderful. Personally I think that (sustaining something good for yourself until the end) is a VERY large part of detaching. I think it goes further into letting all the baggage, dysfunction and overall crxp go emotionally etc....so not letting it drain us, bother us, depress us etc. so along with continue on, moving forward, setting and attaining our own goals even with our Difficult Child being Difficult Child, it is not letting their behaviors/problems burden us emotionally and so forth. This is probably the final step and super hard. I am usually good with it, but have my bad days. You didn't cause your Difficult Child to be a Difficult Child. You went above and beyond to give him a wonderful start in life. You believed in him and helped him. You corrected where you may have made mistakes and gently encouraged him to go forward. When that didn't work, you pushed harder. But, as we have all learned here, you can't do the work for him. He's an adult and he makes his own choices. We have to make our personal choice to move forward. [/QUOTE]
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