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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 628865" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>MWM, I see this action you just took as valuing yourself, waiting, determining what you need to be at peace, and then acting. </p><p></p><p>You handled this with grace and maturity. </p><p></p><p>You said, please, you ended with "wish you well" and you were clear, specific and cordial in your words. </p><p></p><p>It is never a bad thing to be cordial. Never. Because regardless of what the other person does or says, we are building our own self-esteem when we respond (not react) with grace and dignity. Like you did.</p><p></p><p>Now, you can go forward clear-minded, meeting your own eyes in the mirror because you did the next right thing for yourself.</p><p></p><p>It is truly sad that we in families hurt each other so much. It's hard to understand and to accept.</p><p></p><p>So we keep trying and trying and trying. That is why it's taken until now, MWM. You kept holding out hope that something would change with your sister. </p><p></p><p>But it hasn't. And it has continued to hurt you. I just posted about setting boundaries (on another thread) and how we have to do it with people who are bad for us and people who are good for us. It's healthy behavior to have boundaries and to erect them with respect, gentleness and kindness. </p><p></p><p>We also can't get it until we get it. There is no timeline here. You have changed, and continue to change, and now you are ready for this action.</p><p></p><p>I pray your sister respects your boundary and also that something good comes from this, in time, not just for you but for her.</p><p></p><p>We never know about a person's journey, and what will happen next.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you MWM. Enjoy your day today! Do something great for yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 628865, member: 17542"] MWM, I see this action you just took as valuing yourself, waiting, determining what you need to be at peace, and then acting. You handled this with grace and maturity. You said, please, you ended with "wish you well" and you were clear, specific and cordial in your words. It is never a bad thing to be cordial. Never. Because regardless of what the other person does or says, we are building our own self-esteem when we respond (not react) with grace and dignity. Like you did. Now, you can go forward clear-minded, meeting your own eyes in the mirror because you did the next right thing for yourself. It is truly sad that we in families hurt each other so much. It's hard to understand and to accept. So we keep trying and trying and trying. That is why it's taken until now, MWM. You kept holding out hope that something would change with your sister. But it hasn't. And it has continued to hurt you. I just posted about setting boundaries (on another thread) and how we have to do it with people who are bad for us and people who are good for us. It's healthy behavior to have boundaries and to erect them with respect, gentleness and kindness. We also can't get it until we get it. There is no timeline here. You have changed, and continue to change, and now you are ready for this action. I pray your sister respects your boundary and also that something good comes from this, in time, not just for you but for her. We never know about a person's journey, and what will happen next. Hugs to you MWM. Enjoy your day today! Do something great for yourself. [/QUOTE]
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