http://relapse-psst.blogspot.com/2007/07/when-relapse-seems-imminent.html the lead line: There seems to be two basic categories for parents when they feel that a relapse for their teen is around the corner. Which category do you fit in? read the entire article for more insight- the last paragraph in this article: You are powerless to create in your teen a willingness or a desire to recover. However, you are not powerless as far as sending action-based messages. The rule of thumb to follow is this one: doing something to send an action-based message is better than doing nothing. And generally, it will do one thing for you right away. You will feel better right away. You will feel better because you are not doing nothing. Doing nothing creates extreme anxiety. Doing something helps ease the pressure.