I have come to envy our parent's generation a little bit. They were ignorant of so much. Maybe not all of us, but many of us [back in our teenage days] were out running around, trying pot and drinking at parties and camping on the beach, and exploring life...and we both learned from it and survived it. And our parents were either none the wiser or they simply didn't put much thought into it, at least not enough to wonder where they heck we were or with whom, and doing what. Being the youngest of 5 and having a mother who was 40 years older than me, she was wise. She knew what was going on most of the time, but she was tired. In her case, I'd have to say that she chose to look the other way most of the time. Knowing what I know, I very rarely can look the other way. And I am very wise about what's going on. And most of what I've learned about what's going on in my difficult child's life has been through this nifty little spy tool called AIM and difficult child's pure stupidity. I swear, the girl doesn't realize that she can erase an entire IM, clear the IM history?? How can she be so computer savvy and still be so stupid? Even I clear my IM history every time I close a box, and I'm not sharing with the world my every emotion, thought, and sexual plans, antics and history. I wish I were ignorant. Just like the wife who shouldn't look through her H's wallet and clothing for clues as to where he's been (she may not like what she finds, after all), I shouldn't look at my difficult child's IMs. Okay, I get that. But the girl is so stupid that she leaves AIM open when she leaves the house and tells me she is with her gay friend P and then I go onto the computer and her ONE OF HER most current sex buddies has decided to send her one more tiny message that says something like, "Yeah, ok see you there" and I discover that she's not really with P. And because the box is up already, I may as well skim through it and this is when I find information that I wished I hadn't. This is when I should close the darned box and remain ignorant. Because the things she discusses would make your hair curl. O.M.G. So last night I learned that not only is she still kinda sorta seeing Monkeyboy still, she has a local boy on the side, who incidentally looks EXACTLY like Monkeyboy, that she is SLEEPING WITH. So she's sleeping around....I can count 8 guys THAT I KNOW OF that she has slept with. And those are the ones I KNOW about. And currently, if my math is correct, there are two on the hook. sinnce she's become sexually active, 3+ years, she has had 8 bed partners. First, Thank the Good Lord that she is getting the BC shot because if she was relying on the pill (which she forgot all the time) I'm sure I'd be a grandmother by now and God help any baby she ever has). But is she using condoms? I doubt it. Second, I am sick to my stomach...I can't get what I read out of my head. It's like I need to go get my brain cleared or something, similar to the way in which one would wipe out a hard drive. I just DO NOT WANT TO KNOW THIS STUFF ABOUT HER and wish I could erase it all. So, this is why I am so envious of our predessessors. I wish I had their ignorance.