For those of them who say "just cut them loose" do not know the pain and worry that entails.
Teriobe I posted a thread this afternoon about all of the trying we have done with my son, 28, who was homeless for a couple of years, and couch surfing for 2 more.
He has been back with us for a year, for the most part.
Initially the thread was about feeling that we have gone as far as we can, because he paid lip service to our "conditions" which were really bottom line for us.
And then as the day wore on, I realized that he has probably gone of his own accord. How bad this feels. And then I saw your new thread. And I feel a bit better, because as much as I do not want you to suffer, I know I am not suffering alone.
They do not know what it's like to have your homeless son or daughter come knocking on your door.
A year ago my homeless son came knocking at my door at 10pm. He had called earlier in the day from a city 2.5 hours north, asking to come home, and I said "no." He came anyway.
We have been trying for a year. There feels like there is no way to try more, at least this time. I am sad.
You are not alone.