Methuselah
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In the mail, we received a letter from the high school regarding difficult child 1. She is being recognized by the school for her "effort, helpfulness to others, class preparation, school spirit and involvement, and overall citizenship recognizing the expectations of the XXHS community."
I should be thrilled. It is an honor to receive such a prestigious award. But I am not. I am ******.
Effort and classroom preparation: My difficult child 1 has incredible grades this year, because SHE HAS NOTHING ELSE TO DO BUT STUDY. Nothing. We have taken every privilege away hoping she would comply with our rules and out forth some common decency towards her family. Her grades should be exceptional!
And "helpfulness to others"? She helps others and behaves well simply to behave badly when the person's back is turned! When she was expelled and thrown in jail school in her freshman year, she didn't learn "sex, drugs and alcohol on campus prohibited." She learned: if the teachers and administration think you're not the kind of person to indulge in delinquent behaviors, you can get away with all kinds of stuff, because they will look at the kids who they think will cause the problems. When I checked her out of jail school, they actually patted her on the shoulder and told her she wouldn't be back. Within the first week back at her home high school, she was dropping X and letting random guys feel her up. :-/ Yes, her grades went up, but not because she has academic aspirations. It's a ruse to get them to look the other way.
School spirit and involvement: What school spirit and involvement? She can't attend any school functions! The priveledge has been taken away from her.
Overall citizenship recognizing community expectations: God help us all if she is what the school wants other students to aspire to!
Why I am mama bear mad is for my other kids. difficult child 1 has made our home a living nightmare. I can't describe the tension and stress that permeates our home 24/7. Giving difficult child 1 this award is giving her an award for treating our family like koi 24/7/365. The consequences in her life for bad behaviors have allowed her to achieve academically. It is an insult to all the other recipients who have made personal sacrifices to acheive their grades if they give the award to her. They have personally chosen to give up sleep, video games, TV, a social life, etc. to ensure they will do their best. Not difficult child 1. She has nothing else to do!
My husband and I have requested a meeting to ask that the award not be given to her. The anguish it will cause my other kids already breaks my heart. :-(
I should be thrilled. It is an honor to receive such a prestigious award. But I am not. I am ******.
Effort and classroom preparation: My difficult child 1 has incredible grades this year, because SHE HAS NOTHING ELSE TO DO BUT STUDY. Nothing. We have taken every privilege away hoping she would comply with our rules and out forth some common decency towards her family. Her grades should be exceptional!
And "helpfulness to others"? She helps others and behaves well simply to behave badly when the person's back is turned! When she was expelled and thrown in jail school in her freshman year, she didn't learn "sex, drugs and alcohol on campus prohibited." She learned: if the teachers and administration think you're not the kind of person to indulge in delinquent behaviors, you can get away with all kinds of stuff, because they will look at the kids who they think will cause the problems. When I checked her out of jail school, they actually patted her on the shoulder and told her she wouldn't be back. Within the first week back at her home high school, she was dropping X and letting random guys feel her up. :-/ Yes, her grades went up, but not because she has academic aspirations. It's a ruse to get them to look the other way.
School spirit and involvement: What school spirit and involvement? She can't attend any school functions! The priveledge has been taken away from her.
Overall citizenship recognizing community expectations: God help us all if she is what the school wants other students to aspire to!
Why I am mama bear mad is for my other kids. difficult child 1 has made our home a living nightmare. I can't describe the tension and stress that permeates our home 24/7. Giving difficult child 1 this award is giving her an award for treating our family like koi 24/7/365. The consequences in her life for bad behaviors have allowed her to achieve academically. It is an insult to all the other recipients who have made personal sacrifices to acheive their grades if they give the award to her. They have personally chosen to give up sleep, video games, TV, a social life, etc. to ensure they will do their best. Not difficult child 1. She has nothing else to do!
My husband and I have requested a meeting to ask that the award not be given to her. The anguish it will cause my other kids already breaks my heart. :-(