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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 53068" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I'm waivering a little on one side and a little on the other. On one hand, he's 13, which is still a kid, and he shouldn't have been outside the school walking in the street. Wonder if he even made it inside the dance?</p><p></p><p>On the hand, I don't believe I would have reacted so strongly in front of his friends. It was a situation that was ripe for getting out of hand. He needing to maintain his "coolness" and you needing to maintain your control as his mother.</p><p></p><p>I think this morning is a new beginning. I would approach it very much like busywend said. Calm. Controlled. Don't let him allow you to loose it. Tell him you are sorry that you "lost it" last night but you were worried. With all the stories on the news about teens being abducted and killed, you worry about him because you love him. Additionally, when he yells and disrespects you, you loose your concern for him and just get angry and noone wins.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure he will bring up "were you checking on me?" You need to be honest and just say "Yes, I'm your mother and it's my job to make sure you are where you say you are and that you are safe."</p><p></p><p>If either of you begin to get angry, set the rules from the beginning. "If either one of us begins to yell or be disrespectful, we table the discussion until we are calm."</p><p></p><p>Teenagers are a tricky bunch. Having a difficult child teen is even trickier.</p><p></p><p>Good luck today.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 53068, member: 805"] I'm waivering a little on one side and a little on the other. On one hand, he's 13, which is still a kid, and he shouldn't have been outside the school walking in the street. Wonder if he even made it inside the dance? On the hand, I don't believe I would have reacted so strongly in front of his friends. It was a situation that was ripe for getting out of hand. He needing to maintain his "coolness" and you needing to maintain your control as his mother. I think this morning is a new beginning. I would approach it very much like busywend said. Calm. Controlled. Don't let him allow you to loose it. Tell him you are sorry that you "lost it" last night but you were worried. With all the stories on the news about teens being abducted and killed, you worry about him because you love him. Additionally, when he yells and disrespects you, you loose your concern for him and just get angry and noone wins. I'm sure he will bring up "were you checking on me?" You need to be honest and just say "Yes, I'm your mother and it's my job to make sure you are where you say you are and that you are safe." If either of you begin to get angry, set the rules from the beginning. "If either one of us begins to yell or be disrespectful, we table the discussion until we are calm." Teenagers are a tricky bunch. Having a difficult child teen is even trickier. Good luck today. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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