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I'm a son who became criminal and wants to reconnect with parents. I need your help.
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<blockquote data-quote="Overit" data-source="post: 707516" data-attributes="member: 21359"><p>When I was growing up my brother was 17 and I was 12 when he started to get into heavier drugs. He was still my idol and always loved and looked after me. He abused my mothers trust brought girls home, partied a lot, couldn't keep a job, and in the end his girlfriend smashed up our house while it was on the market to sell, ending in the fact that my mum didn't get the money she should have. Mum had enough and wanted to move away from the life we grew up with, which were a few violent fathers and stealing which had grown in our area. She kicked my brother out and in a matter of a couple of months he had a baby with his girlfriend on the way. I love my brother but his girlfriend led him away from the family to the point we had no contact with him for 6 years. This hurt me so much, my brother was the world and I couldn't understand why he rejected me also. He ended up losing all his ID then became what we said was an anon. He couldn't keep a job, couldn't get welfare so by this point he was a needle user started stealing to support himself. My mother and I searched always, worried he was alright. Eventually we made contact again, he was a pretty bad user by this stage but we wanted him back in our lives as our family unit was small and we had always just stuck together. At this stage he had left the girl he was with but he and his girlfriend had made a pact that we would never know their daughter. Its been 27years and I have finally contacted his daughter after one of my brothers girlfriends sisters gave me the link, as I had been searching for years to contact her. After gaol terms and bad drug and alcohol addiction, he finally started coming around. He got off the drugs got a job which he is now the supervisor of his workshop, married a new girl had 2 boys which are now 20 and 17 bought a house, car, boat, everything he had wished for. We are back together which I am so happy for although I am 45 now and he is 50, so many years lost. I am so very proud to see the man he has become, I do still idolise him, he was my everything when life at home when we where kids was tough. He still seems to have a bit of a grudge on mum from all those years ago but we are now always welcome in each others lives. At some point in your life what you are doing now will not seem as important and you will move on and realise there is a whole world out there just waiting for you, but when you are ready to make that change. At this point people will easily see you have taken your own path and responsibilities and most probably will reach out for you to come back into their lives. As you can see what I have written this may take time depending how let down your parents feel. Stay In contact but heal yourself at the same time</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Overit, post: 707516, member: 21359"] When I was growing up my brother was 17 and I was 12 when he started to get into heavier drugs. He was still my idol and always loved and looked after me. He abused my mothers trust brought girls home, partied a lot, couldn't keep a job, and in the end his girlfriend smashed up our house while it was on the market to sell, ending in the fact that my mum didn't get the money she should have. Mum had enough and wanted to move away from the life we grew up with, which were a few violent fathers and stealing which had grown in our area. She kicked my brother out and in a matter of a couple of months he had a baby with his girlfriend on the way. I love my brother but his girlfriend led him away from the family to the point we had no contact with him for 6 years. This hurt me so much, my brother was the world and I couldn't understand why he rejected me also. He ended up losing all his ID then became what we said was an anon. He couldn't keep a job, couldn't get welfare so by this point he was a needle user started stealing to support himself. My mother and I searched always, worried he was alright. Eventually we made contact again, he was a pretty bad user by this stage but we wanted him back in our lives as our family unit was small and we had always just stuck together. At this stage he had left the girl he was with but he and his girlfriend had made a pact that we would never know their daughter. Its been 27years and I have finally contacted his daughter after one of my brothers girlfriends sisters gave me the link, as I had been searching for years to contact her. After gaol terms and bad drug and alcohol addiction, he finally started coming around. He got off the drugs got a job which he is now the supervisor of his workshop, married a new girl had 2 boys which are now 20 and 17 bought a house, car, boat, everything he had wished for. We are back together which I am so happy for although I am 45 now and he is 50, so many years lost. I am so very proud to see the man he has become, I do still idolise him, he was my everything when life at home when we where kids was tough. He still seems to have a bit of a grudge on mum from all those years ago but we are now always welcome in each others lives. At some point in your life what you are doing now will not seem as important and you will move on and realise there is a whole world out there just waiting for you, but when you are ready to make that change. At this point people will easily see you have taken your own path and responsibilities and most probably will reach out for you to come back into their lives. As you can see what I have written this may take time depending how let down your parents feel. Stay In contact but heal yourself at the same time [/QUOTE]
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