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I'm a son who became criminal and wants to reconnect with parents. I need your help.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 707571" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi</p><p></p><p>It took courage to post here. You knew what you would find here, and you did it anyway. I think you do not give yourself the credit you deserve.</p><p></p><p>This is your bottom line:</p><p> Knowing how they feel you cannot morally, I think, expose them to a lifestyle that they cannot abide and you cannot ethically expect that they stomach activities that they feel damage you as a person, and damage others.</p><p></p><p>I think this is how you judge yourself:</p><p>Zxc. Life requires choices. We can seldom have it both ways. Our choices define us. You are choosing. You have a right to choose. But your choices determine who you become. To your parents you are choosing incorrectly. As good parents with middle class values they can never condone what you are doing. You know this already.</p><p></p><p>I doubt that your parents think you are a bad person. What they do not like is your choices. There is an important distinction here.</p><p>My son and I have the same difference in opinion about marijuana. At first I was neutral. When I saw what it did to him and his life, I began to hate the drug.</p><p>I agree with Lil. If what you are doing is illegal, you are committing a crime. This is not a moral judgement. It is a fact. That you make the choice to risk imprisonment does not make it right to expose your parents to your lifestyle.</p><p></p><p>Except I agree with Lil. If there is love, reach out. You will know how to protect them. And they will know that you are doing so.</p><p>This saddens me. There are so many places to see and things to do. People to meet. A wide world that is fun. There are countries where one can live easily and well for a couple of hundred dollars a month or less. I knew a guy who worked a few months a year and lived on the beach in Indonesia, where he had bought property for a thousand dollars or so.</p><p></p><p>Selling weed is not your only option.</p><p></p><p>I know people that for 40 years have taught English as a second language all over the world: Japan, Africa, Libya, Saudi Arabia, Hong Kong, and dozens more countries. They work when they want. They saved millions of dollars.</p><p></p><p>You are justifying what you are doing by saying your only option is to be a wage slave--or sell drugs. Do you really believe that?</p><p>This is a cop out.</p><p> Well. I hated my job but I had gone to college. I studied to have a career where I earned big money, but I was still treated badly. I have the option of working for myself, now, if I want to. I do not know if I want to. I still would not sell drugs.</p><p></p><p>I am wondering if your posting is really to work this out--to work out your own sense that you are letting yourself down.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted. I hope you stick around. You could really help US out by giving us your perspective. Most of us have sons and daughters around your age.</p><p></p><p>Do not be afraid to reach out to your parents. Just, protect them. They love you. They want you to be safe, and to live as a good man. You know that.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 707571, member: 18958"] Hi It took courage to post here. You knew what you would find here, and you did it anyway. I think you do not give yourself the credit you deserve. This is your bottom line: Knowing how they feel you cannot morally, I think, expose them to a lifestyle that they cannot abide and you cannot ethically expect that they stomach activities that they feel damage you as a person, and damage others. I think this is how you judge yourself: Zxc. Life requires choices. We can seldom have it both ways. Our choices define us. You are choosing. You have a right to choose. But your choices determine who you become. To your parents you are choosing incorrectly. As good parents with middle class values they can never condone what you are doing. You know this already. I doubt that your parents think you are a bad person. What they do not like is your choices. There is an important distinction here. My son and I have the same difference in opinion about marijuana. At first I was neutral. When I saw what it did to him and his life, I began to hate the drug. I agree with Lil. If what you are doing is illegal, you are committing a crime. This is not a moral judgement. It is a fact. That you make the choice to risk imprisonment does not make it right to expose your parents to your lifestyle. Except I agree with Lil. If there is love, reach out. You will know how to protect them. And they will know that you are doing so. This saddens me. There are so many places to see and things to do. People to meet. A wide world that is fun. There are countries where one can live easily and well for a couple of hundred dollars a month or less. I knew a guy who worked a few months a year and lived on the beach in Indonesia, where he had bought property for a thousand dollars or so. Selling weed is not your only option. I know people that for 40 years have taught English as a second language all over the world: Japan, Africa, Libya, Saudi Arabia, Hong Kong, and dozens more countries. They work when they want. They saved millions of dollars. You are justifying what you are doing by saying your only option is to be a wage slave--or sell drugs. Do you really believe that? This is a cop out. Well. I hated my job but I had gone to college. I studied to have a career where I earned big money, but I was still treated badly. I have the option of working for myself, now, if I want to. I do not know if I want to. I still would not sell drugs. I am wondering if your posting is really to work this out--to work out your own sense that you are letting yourself down. I am glad you posted. I hope you stick around. You could really help US out by giving us your perspective. Most of us have sons and daughters around your age. Do not be afraid to reach out to your parents. Just, protect them. They love you. They want you to be safe, and to live as a good man. You know that. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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