Well, anyway, I'm not feeling as hopeful about difficult child's 'epiphany' as I was before last night. We all hoped that the new baby would wake difficult child up and motivate him to start on the path toward responsible adulthood, and his mom was so excited about the 'epiphany' he had after the child was born. She even told difficult child that his dad (her X, my husband) would pay for him to go back to college without asking us. Well, his 17yo brother was complaining that difficult child hasn't changed a bit. Mom still has to wake difficult child up every morning and he waits until the last possible minute to get up, after mom has to yell several times because they are going to be late for 17yo's school and mom's job. (She makes difficult child leave the house every morning with them, hoping he will get a job, or at least not lay around the house, steal stuff and make a mess) 17yo says he is not looking very hard for a job, either, though I'm not sure if he can know this for sure. GFHG's only consistant source of income is his bi-weekly trips to the blood donation center, which he spends on cigarettes, energy drinks, and (probably) drugs. I am so disappointed that he doesn't seem to care about supporting his child. I cannot comprehend why a person would choose the life he is living, but this seems to be his choice, at least for now.