Here is my situation: Our oldest daughter is 9, almost 10. She has a medical condition called Russell-Silver syndrome. http://www.magicfoundation.org/www/docs/112.111/russell_silver_syndrome While her's is a much milder case of it, she has still had a lot of issues: + Premature + Lack of weight gain + Didn't walk until almost 3 + Extreme speech issues even now... (had to have surgery to lengthen the soft palette of her mouth) + Had tubes put in ears at 5.5 yrs due to constant ear infections + Extremely small for her size (she's 9 and we JUST NOW got her into size 7 pants) Due to her needs, she has been placed in the collaborative Special Education program so that she can get daily speech therapy, etc. We've always had some problems with her. She's always been rather selective in her hearing, etc. At one point, we actually had a full hearing test done on her just to make sure that there wasn't a hearing issue going on. However, we have recently (in the last 10 or so months) have started having even more severe issues with her as outlined below: INCIDENT ONE (still ongoing): Alyssa has started texting people, without our permission. She will sneak in and steal our phones during the early morning hours and start texting every one of our contacts. She has gotten into repeated trouble for this offense and yet she continues to do it. I am aware that part of why she does it is due to people having a hard time understanding her from her speech issues. But she is texting people that WE barely even know! INCIDENT TWO (still ongoing): Since she was old enough to crawl, Alyssa has written and drawn on the walls and furniture. Everywhere I look, I find 'Alyssa <3 Dr. Who' (it's her fav show) or something of that nature. However, NOW she is taken to carving things into wood, etc... and she'll write things with it like 'The tornado did it!' or 'Mia (her little sister, 8yrs) did it!' When she's caught, she denies up and down that she was the one who did it, when you can look at the writing/carving and tell that it's hers! She once tried to blame her 3yr old brother for writing 'the tornado did it' in perm marker on the bathroom cabinet! What the...?! Again, she is punished repeatedly, this last time going on total room restriction for the whole weekend... she comes out, immediately starts again! INCIDENT THREE (still ongoing): Lying & respect... everything is a lie and lack of respect! We tell her 'No, you can not use that notebook, it has Mommy's work notes in it!'... next thing you know, she has it and is writing on every single page! When caught, she says, "I didn't know!" 0.o I buy *3* coloring books, one for each of the kids and *3* boxes of crayons, pencils whatever... I stress that each one is that person's and NO ONE ELSE IS TO USE IT! The 3yr old and the 8yr listen... but Alyssa doesn't! She just takes it and uses it! This applies to EVERYTHING! INCIDENT FOUR (still ongoing): Attitudes! OMG! - the attitudes are KILLING! I tell her that she needs to do her homework; fit throwing! I tell her to change out of her school clothes; ATTITUDE! I tell her to pick up her cup from the entertainment center, I get this flabbergasted expression and a 'Fine! Whatever' stomp off and the put-upon sigh! This is with EVERYTHING! I tell her to help us pick up the house, the 3yr old and the 8yr old are doing it... she just gets an attitude and stomps around and suddenly has to go to the bathroom or back hurts or yadda yadda yadda. *tears hair out* INCIDENT FIVE (new development): She doesn't do her schoolwork. When she does, she's half-butted it and none of it's right. She doesn't do her homework. All she does in both class and at home is sit and write letters to her frickin' grandmother who lets her do whatever she wants! (Which is why they hardly ever see her anymore!) When she's out sick, she wont take the excuse notes to the office or give it to the teacher. We are now being contacted by social services because of too many unexcused abscences!! I honestly don't know what to do anymore! We've tried revocation of privileges, restriction, sentence writing, extra chores, corner time... EVERYTHING! I am losing my MIND! Most days, I honestly don't want to go home after work because I know I have to deal with her! All she does is scream (and I mean SCREAM) at her little brother, whine, complain, throw attitudes, etc... and I no longer can take it!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!