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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 661051" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Hi Weary,</p><p></p><p>Same here, that I think your feelings are quite natural. As parents, our emotions certainly run the gamut. I went from feeling so very, very sad for my son - to resigned - to angry - to disgusted....and volleyed back and forth. Right now, i am close to angry, but mostly just want left out of his fallout.</p><p></p><p>My Difficult Child has also been very mean. He has been in prison and apparently did not learn too much. This was in a fairly progressive system (compared to my state) with individual therapy, group sessions, opportunities to earn college credit, etc. One thing my husband expresses fairly frequently is that he wants Difficult Child to know <strong>we know how mean he has been to us</strong>. And, i agree with that. I see no point in trying to downplay any of that (although, for years...i did!)</p><p></p><p>You know, we feel what we feel at the time. I am not so certain we can change those feelings, based on the history and what we have been through. This forum helps us see things differently because we get so much affirmation and understanding. Still, each of us must travel this road at pretty much our own speed.</p><p></p><p>SWOT's comments make sense to me, in that the sooner our Difficult Child's get the repercussions for their choices, the better. Trying to protect them does not help them. I know I was in denial for years.</p><p></p><p>I have thought and said this so many times....<em>if i had known then what i know now....</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Stay with us, ok?</p><p></p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 661051, member: 17635"] Hi Weary, Same here, that I think your feelings are quite natural. As parents, our emotions certainly run the gamut. I went from feeling so very, very sad for my son - to resigned - to angry - to disgusted....and volleyed back and forth. Right now, i am close to angry, but mostly just want left out of his fallout. My Difficult Child has also been very mean. He has been in prison and apparently did not learn too much. This was in a fairly progressive system (compared to my state) with individual therapy, group sessions, opportunities to earn college credit, etc. One thing my husband expresses fairly frequently is that he wants Difficult Child to know [B]we know how mean he has been to us[/B]. And, i agree with that. I see no point in trying to downplay any of that (although, for years...i did!) You know, we feel what we feel at the time. I am not so certain we can change those feelings, based on the history and what we have been through. This forum helps us see things differently because we get so much affirmation and understanding. Still, each of us must travel this road at pretty much our own speed. SWOT's comments make sense to me, in that the sooner our Difficult Child's get the repercussions for their choices, the better. Trying to protect them does not help them. I know I was in denial for years. I have thought and said this so many times....[I]if i had known then what i know now.... [/I] Stay with us, ok? SS [/QUOTE]
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