I'm calling CPS on myself tomorrow

Mattsmom277

Active Member
I too am glad that you will have some support for yourself. I also agree that your difficult child needs help. The solution will not simply lie in helping you learn to adjust to mothering a child with problems without the stress becoming overwhelming. difficult child needs help to learn to behave rationally and respectfully. I do hope that you can find proper services for him. Don't give up :) :)
 

Steely

Active Member
A crisis intervention team is something I never had in place for my difficult child - because truthfully at the time, I did not know it existed. Had I had that in place for difficult child, his entire life, and mine, would have been drastically different. Instead, when difficult child got out of control, I was left feeling helpless and without any place to go or any way to get him help. It fueled my own rage, because I felt trapped and a victim of difficult child's rages. I also began to get out of control, like what is happening with you. At certain times, when he became entirely out of control, I would manage to get him to a hospital, which was always hard, but always helpful. Finally when difficult child was 6'3 and punched me in the back - it was over. I called the police, they took him and I found him placement - but that was after 17 years of me trying to help a mentally ill kid all by myself. It was not at all what was best for him or me. So, please get some resources and backup for him as well as you. The crisis intervention team is a great idea. Calling the police if he is violent and having them escort him to a phosph is also another option. He needs something in place that will cause him to stop and realize that what he is doing is horribly wrong, and that if he continues it will result in a life altering consequence. You are only a small part of this solution - he also needs procedures in place to stop this cycle.

Hugs.
 

MICHL

Member
difficult child gets County Mental Health services and his caseworker visits him at his school weekly for a counseling session. Also the school counselor meets with him. He is in the appropriate school setting, IEP, & services. In the past I've taken him to a therapist weekly and it did nothing for difficult child, but it was supportive for me. In the past, several years ago when we lived in an apt., I did call the police several times and the PERT team came out a few times also. difficult child had a couple of psychiatrist inpatient stays to adjust medications. The police coming out was embarassing but I did call as things were so bad. They still are, but there is a stigma when neighbors see the police visiting you.

Thanks for your suggestions & support.
 
(Hugs!) Hang in there! Sounds to me like you took the right steps to get some help for you and your son. Hopefully, more will be done to help your family in the future. I know how topugh it can be to find a support group out there in real life but we are here when you need us. Do we have a chat room of sorts here? Just curious. You can skype or instant message us when you need us. I am so grateful for this board.
 

change

New Member
Hi. I almost feel the same way right now. I haven't been physical like that with my daughter but we already relinquished one adopted son back to the state (he tried to rape his own biological sister 2 years ago - attachment disorder) and now the sister, remaining child that we have, is behaving really awful too. We really don't know what else to do for her. She is manipulative, steals, lies, etc. We are just sick over it, literally. She is out of control and boy crazy too. I am seriously considering taking her to a planned parenthood because I don't want any pregnant teens in my house and we can't control her @ school. Anyway, don't beat yourself up. I feel like calling CPS on myself too for how I speak to her lately. I have been very, very, blunt with her because I am so angry with her all the time. Nothing else has worked though. Attachment disorder sucks.
 
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