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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 694174" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>I don't think you are ragging on him too much. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />, if anything, you aren't ragging on him enough. There is no amount of positive reinforcement, and brutal honesty that comes from a good place, that is "too much". While the honesty may hurt our feelings a bit, we really need to hear it. We can't see ourselves through others' eyes. We do not see all the flaws, or the extend of those flaws. So a reality check by a loving friend or family may sound harsh when spoken, but it is helpful in a very practical way. It is much better than helping him fail because you didn't want to sound harsh or hurtful.</p><p></p><p>The vacation idea is almost certainly going to blow up in his face. Countless addicts have tried the geographical fix, and failed miserably. The problem isn't what is around him. It isn't due to the weather. It is internal. We can run from many things, but not ourselves. The same problems that led us to substance abuse in the first place will eventually resurface. And they are just as ill prepared as the last time. He is an adult, and can do whatever he thinks might help, but you might want to go around the internet and find some stories about people trying a geographical cure. Show them to your son. He should at least be well informed before making the wrong decision, don't you think? If he acknowledges these facts and still does it, it is entirely on him, and he will have no excuse whatsoever. </p><p></p><p>That aside, his disrespect makes my blood boil. This is something that always gets to me. How can they take their own mother for granted? How do they have so little respect and regard for the person who literally gave them life? I was always a huge mama's boy growing up. I was my mothers' favorite. Not something she ever said, but it was clear how much closer she was to me than even my twin sister... Having lost her, it irks me to see others piss all over theirs. They are sooooo fortunate, and it is incredibly unfortunate that they don't see that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 694174, member: 20267"] I don't think you are ragging on him too much. :censored2:, if anything, you aren't ragging on him enough. There is no amount of positive reinforcement, and brutal honesty that comes from a good place, that is "too much". While the honesty may hurt our feelings a bit, we really need to hear it. We can't see ourselves through others' eyes. We do not see all the flaws, or the extend of those flaws. So a reality check by a loving friend or family may sound harsh when spoken, but it is helpful in a very practical way. It is much better than helping him fail because you didn't want to sound harsh or hurtful. The vacation idea is almost certainly going to blow up in his face. Countless addicts have tried the geographical fix, and failed miserably. The problem isn't what is around him. It isn't due to the weather. It is internal. We can run from many things, but not ourselves. The same problems that led us to substance abuse in the first place will eventually resurface. And they are just as ill prepared as the last time. He is an adult, and can do whatever he thinks might help, but you might want to go around the internet and find some stories about people trying a geographical cure. Show them to your son. He should at least be well informed before making the wrong decision, don't you think? If he acknowledges these facts and still does it, it is entirely on him, and he will have no excuse whatsoever. That aside, his disrespect makes my blood boil. This is something that always gets to me. How can they take their own mother for granted? How do they have so little respect and regard for the person who literally gave them life? I was always a huge mama's boy growing up. I was my mothers' favorite. Not something she ever said, but it was clear how much closer she was to me than even my twin sister... Having lost her, it irks me to see others piss all over theirs. They are sooooo fortunate, and it is incredibly unfortunate that they don't see that. [/QUOTE]
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