I'm "Double Posting" Something That I Just Remembered Helped Alot Of Us.

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by DDD, Jun 20, 2013.

  1. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    There are so many newer Board members who are in high stress mode lately with difficult child phone calls. Years ago a bunch of us benefited from this idea. You might consider it!

    Make a list of responses and keep it by the telephone. This is not "the" list. I just recalled that having a list helped a bunch of people. You respond to difficult child's woes with the sentence that seems most appropriate AND stay detached. For example:

    "I'm sure you will find the right solution."
    "You're very intelligent and will soon find the right choice."
    "We all have faith in you."

    Simple responses that do not accept responsibility for difficult child circumstances that they caused. Others may add more but the idea is to stay detached from their issues and let them own it...with an encouraging word. DDD
  2. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

  3. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    I like this reminder, DDD.

    It's good to know what to say to our difficult child's when they bring their "problems and issues" our way.

    One of my favorites is..."You're a smart guy, you'll figure this out."

    Love ya,