SuZir
Well-Known Member
First things first, I'm mostly content on how my life choices have turned out. I would not change my husband, my home and most certainly not my kids. And my career has met my needs and the changes I'm doing to it now are something I feel will meet my future needs. All that said: Oh goodness, how greeneyed I feel when listening Ache's girlfriend's plans!
She is a real high-achiever. One of those 'save the world'-types. Her interests lie in environmental technology. Uni program she attends is highly ranked, so is the Uni she has spent this semester abroad. For this summer she ended up choosing between few very good or absolutely great internship options and will be heading again abroad to another country for the summer. Ache is bit upset that they will spend summer so far from each other and come fall, while at the same country, they will be couple hundred miles away from each other and Ache having very few free days and almost never even two of those together, and her being busy with her stuff, they will not be seeing each others much. But he would not be ready to compromise his career and doesn't expect her to do that either, so long-distance relationship it is.
Ache's girlfriend is very opinionated, headstrong, driven, quite immature, entitled and bit naive, rather uncompromising, bit of know-it-all and absolutely awesome. I'm likely too invested to her and Ache's relationship. After all, they are both still young, it is long-distance relationship and both are driven and uncompromising when it comes to their dreams. But I really do hope that she would end up to be my daughter-in-law someday in future.
When I was her age, I too was at the Uni and doing well. But I had already just married my husband and we were thinking of having a baby. My quest for white picket fences was overriding my career ambitions. And Ache turning out to be Ache turned me to different roads even more than I had envisioned. But I had consistently made those choices turning off from adventure and towards those fences some time before.
When we graduated from High School, my then off and on boyfriend (he was one of those guys, who stay under your skin, notwithstanding how impossible the relationship may had been, and our's was) decided to ditch it all and spent some years first at Goa then backpacking around the world. He asked me to go with him, but while tempted, I chose staying and starting Uni that fall. When he came back, I already had one kid starting school and had been stay-at-home mom for some time after graduating from Uni. He has made quite a career since then, though.
After I had met my husband and around a time we got engaged, I had another huge opportunity for adventure. More academic and career orientated one though. But would had involved leaving the country for few years, putting the career first and leaving my now husband behind. I was more than tempted, but chose getting engaged, just doing a short semester abroad thing and concentrating building a life with him.
I of course do not know how my life would had turned out if I had left by either of those times. And as said, I have a good marriage and my husband is a decent guy and we have great thing going on. And I really couldn't regret having my boys. But I do feel little wistful for not having courage and spirit to go for it at the time, but instead made a safe choices every time.
She is a real high-achiever. One of those 'save the world'-types. Her interests lie in environmental technology. Uni program she attends is highly ranked, so is the Uni she has spent this semester abroad. For this summer she ended up choosing between few very good or absolutely great internship options and will be heading again abroad to another country for the summer. Ache is bit upset that they will spend summer so far from each other and come fall, while at the same country, they will be couple hundred miles away from each other and Ache having very few free days and almost never even two of those together, and her being busy with her stuff, they will not be seeing each others much. But he would not be ready to compromise his career and doesn't expect her to do that either, so long-distance relationship it is.
Ache's girlfriend is very opinionated, headstrong, driven, quite immature, entitled and bit naive, rather uncompromising, bit of know-it-all and absolutely awesome. I'm likely too invested to her and Ache's relationship. After all, they are both still young, it is long-distance relationship and both are driven and uncompromising when it comes to their dreams. But I really do hope that she would end up to be my daughter-in-law someday in future.
When I was her age, I too was at the Uni and doing well. But I had already just married my husband and we were thinking of having a baby. My quest for white picket fences was overriding my career ambitions. And Ache turning out to be Ache turned me to different roads even more than I had envisioned. But I had consistently made those choices turning off from adventure and towards those fences some time before.
When we graduated from High School, my then off and on boyfriend (he was one of those guys, who stay under your skin, notwithstanding how impossible the relationship may had been, and our's was) decided to ditch it all and spent some years first at Goa then backpacking around the world. He asked me to go with him, but while tempted, I chose staying and starting Uni that fall. When he came back, I already had one kid starting school and had been stay-at-home mom for some time after graduating from Uni. He has made quite a career since then, though.
After I had met my husband and around a time we got engaged, I had another huge opportunity for adventure. More academic and career orientated one though. But would had involved leaving the country for few years, putting the career first and leaving my now husband behind. I was more than tempted, but chose getting engaged, just doing a short semester abroad thing and concentrating building a life with him.
I of course do not know how my life would had turned out if I had left by either of those times. And as said, I have a good marriage and my husband is a decent guy and we have great thing going on. And I really couldn't regret having my boys. But I do feel little wistful for not having courage and spirit to go for it at the time, but instead made a safe choices every time.