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I'm gonna remember all the things my "friends" and "family" have done to hurt me
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 642304" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>And I don't think we owe anything to our "relatives" whether they need us or not, if they were cruel to us. Nothing. Some people who were abused end up being the caregivers in the end and that will never be me (we are all different). I don't feel I owe anyone more than they gave me. I am always there for those who were there for me. We owe one another nothing. That's it.</p><p></p><p>But I also don't turn my back in anger. It is what it is. If you made it clear I was nothing to you but a screw up...find somebody else when you are in need. It is just a thought, not something I ruminate over or give much time to. I am not a martyr or a hero. I am just a person who is not going to give large chunks of my life to my abusers anymore. They can find others to help them or get involved in the system.</p><p></p><p>At the same time, I won't give them the power to make me feel guilty or upset either. I was always the go-to person for those in need...my siblings, my parents...all who treated me like crapola. I tried to help and got blamed for what I did. That part of my life is over. I have let go. I am not coming back. Life is too short to take care of sick relatives who have treated me with nothing but contempt. To me, that is just not going to happen.</p><p></p><p>You aren't wrong, Hound Dog. I don't think I am either. We just have differing ideas on what to do with needy, sick, old abusers. I would go along with GM, except for bothering with the anger. Trust me, they have and will find others to care for them. It does not have to be me, as I would not expect them to take care of me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 642304, member: 1550"] And I don't think we owe anything to our "relatives" whether they need us or not, if they were cruel to us. Nothing. Some people who were abused end up being the caregivers in the end and that will never be me (we are all different). I don't feel I owe anyone more than they gave me. I am always there for those who were there for me. We owe one another nothing. That's it. But I also don't turn my back in anger. It is what it is. If you made it clear I was nothing to you but a screw up...find somebody else when you are in need. It is just a thought, not something I ruminate over or give much time to. I am not a martyr or a hero. I am just a person who is not going to give large chunks of my life to my abusers anymore. They can find others to help them or get involved in the system. At the same time, I won't give them the power to make me feel guilty or upset either. I was always the go-to person for those in need...my siblings, my parents...all who treated me like crapola. I tried to help and got blamed for what I did. That part of my life is over. I have let go. I am not coming back. Life is too short to take care of sick relatives who have treated me with nothing but contempt. To me, that is just not going to happen. You aren't wrong, Hound Dog. I don't think I am either. We just have differing ideas on what to do with needy, sick, old abusers. I would go along with GM, except for bothering with the anger. Trust me, they have and will find others to care for them. It does not have to be me, as I would not expect them to take care of me. [/QUOTE]
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