Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I'm gonna remember all the things my "friends" and "family" have done to hurt me
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 642464" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't have the power to take anything away from you, GM. Most of us have had hard lives. My kids have had bad things happen to them too. It's just that we think differently. I do not care of particularly wish anything on anybody. I just want to continue to move forward and live a great life myself. To me, if you are talking about revenge, overcoming your obstacles is the best revenge. You are young with plenty of time to turn your life around, but you can't do it alone. Nobody can suffer what you have and do it alone. Like most of us, I feel you would do better in therapy. I know, I know. You don't like it, but you haven't tried it for a long time. And in my opinion it is far more healthy and makes us far more happy to concentrate on ourselves and the rest of our joyous lives than to worry about the angst others may face. It is very possible nobody will ever come to your door needing your help. Then what?</p><p></p><p>If you are seeking revenge, I understand (I do), but you will face it at the cost of having a happy life. There is no reason for somebody your age not to find a SO and have a nice family. I found my wonderful husband around your age and until then had never lived in normalcy, although my attitude was never quite like yours (not saying it was better, it was just different). I was and always have been focused on ME and MY life and those who were unkind to me have affected me deeply, but I really pretty much let them go in my mind. I consider each one a teacher...my father and mother taught me how NOT to be a parent so that my relationship with my kids are so much richer and more loving, even with my difficult child (Lalthough it hasn't always been that way with him). My compassion for others is off the charts. I have a good heart that never quits and I don't know if I'd have that if I had been brought up not understanding how others can hurt. So much good has come from much bad. I consider it a draw.</p><p></p><p>I just would love to see you learn how to love yourself and to make a happy life for yourself one day, rather than focusing on the bad. And I KNOW you had valid bad. But you can turn a negative, even a horrible negative, into a positive. You can decide others who went through what you did and hold their hands and be there for them. I've done a lot of that. It feels good.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and lots and lots of good wishes to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 642464, member: 1550"] I don't have the power to take anything away from you, GM. Most of us have had hard lives. My kids have had bad things happen to them too. It's just that we think differently. I do not care of particularly wish anything on anybody. I just want to continue to move forward and live a great life myself. To me, if you are talking about revenge, overcoming your obstacles is the best revenge. You are young with plenty of time to turn your life around, but you can't do it alone. Nobody can suffer what you have and do it alone. Like most of us, I feel you would do better in therapy. I know, I know. You don't like it, but you haven't tried it for a long time. And in my opinion it is far more healthy and makes us far more happy to concentrate on ourselves and the rest of our joyous lives than to worry about the angst others may face. It is very possible nobody will ever come to your door needing your help. Then what? If you are seeking revenge, I understand (I do), but you will face it at the cost of having a happy life. There is no reason for somebody your age not to find a SO and have a nice family. I found my wonderful husband around your age and until then had never lived in normalcy, although my attitude was never quite like yours (not saying it was better, it was just different). I was and always have been focused on ME and MY life and those who were unkind to me have affected me deeply, but I really pretty much let them go in my mind. I consider each one a teacher...my father and mother taught me how NOT to be a parent so that my relationship with my kids are so much richer and more loving, even with my difficult child (Lalthough it hasn't always been that way with him). My compassion for others is off the charts. I have a good heart that never quits and I don't know if I'd have that if I had been brought up not understanding how others can hurt. So much good has come from much bad. I consider it a draw. I just would love to see you learn how to love yourself and to make a happy life for yourself one day, rather than focusing on the bad. And I KNOW you had valid bad. But you can turn a negative, even a horrible negative, into a positive. You can decide others who went through what you did and hold their hands and be there for them. I've done a lot of that. It feels good. Hugs and lots and lots of good wishes to you. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I'm gonna remember all the things my "friends" and "family" have done to hurt me
Top