Okay, to start the story my daughter was diagnosed with ODD, and depression. We have had really a rought couple of years, and yes things haven't been good. So I've always known that my child didn't fit in with other kids, and there was teasing and bullying. I tried to intervene and I've been to the school on certain events, and have even talked with other parents. Then we had a big shift in our lives when my partner and I (and kids) moved into together. My daughter was okay at first, we talked extensively with them about this and felt comfortable to move forward. Anyhow all hell broke loose and my daughter was uncontrolable to the extreme...I tried to get help, and some of it worked. Anyhow fast forward to today....So we check her computer often to see her actities...my partner is pretty computer savvy and went in deeper when we found a big file of MSN chats and email. They were horrible...the kids were soooooo cruel to my daughter...it made me cry hard and feel sick. I've tried to help and I've tried to be there but I've lost my mind many times. The stress of life coupled with this has made me crazy. I feel guilty because our home life became chaotic and she really pushed me away. I tried to help...I did. Anyhow I have been getting councilling and slowly trying to get daughter there again too. They told me not to push her, and to be loving and supportive and slowly she'll come around. In the mean time I'm attending to help the situation. My daughter has a lot of hurt and anger, but her perception of situations is really off sometimes. For example she's been singing like crazy around the house, which is good because these past couple of weeks she's been happy....So the other day she sang at her computer for like two hours really loud...and by the way she isn't exactly on tune LOL. We have agreed to let her go to voice lessons, anyhow I jokingly said to her "IF you tone it down a bit, I'll let you go to two classes a week"...she laughed at the time, but now she is saying I told her she is tone deaf and can't sing. Soooooo on her computer we found she has been to Kid's Help phone online. She has posted to a councillor and they responded. First off I was thrilled she reached out and talked, cause she doesn't often. Well in this thread she said that we call her names and walk into her room and call her ugly and when she cut her wrist I called her psycho, and she is just being a normal kid, maybe a bit "defiant" (I thought it was funny she used that word). We have never called her those things, and she forgets to put the black eye i got, the broken things in the house, and the suspension at school (she put that she got that for not doing some homework) Anyhow the councillor wrote back...and I mean in the first sentence she said "you are being abused, verbally by your mom and her boyfriend"....they went on to say I was cruel for calling her psycho when she cut her wrist and I should have been more caring and supportive and is there somewhere else she could live for the time? AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH I've been crying for 12 hours now. What kind of advice is that????? I understand that they have to take things seriously, but to call me cruel and abusive. That's such a dangerous thing to say to her, especially when her perception of the situation is so off. They don't know what they are dealing with on the other end. She also posted about 5 different subjects including how she hated her brother ,and now her brother is abusive to her too....and the kids at school, ect ect. What do I do??????? Do I talk to her about what I found? I also noted she wrote this on the last day of school where she was in the principals office and a whole bunch of things happened that she did. I'm stressed!!!!