OK, here goes. My son is 12. He has always been a challenge. When he was younger he would bang his head when he was mad, fight me before school about getting his clothes on because his "clothes hurt" tags, zippers and the like. Always defiant and never easy. His father moved away 2 years ago with his new family and doesn't call or write, zero contact. He was very upset over this and his behavior has only worsened. He had a neuro evaluation in 2008 which diagnosed him with ADHD. He has been seeing a counselor since he was 6 for his behavior problems. (I know I'm all over the place but I'm just so happy to be here!) We've tried quite a few medications Trileptal, Ritalin, Adderall there are more I just can't remember them. We are currently on Lexapro and Intuniv. He is on the first month of Lexapro 10mg. It seems to be making a small difference. We're on week 2 of Inutniv 2mg and he keeps complaining of headaches and being tired. I have seen no difference yet in his behavior. He recently just qualified for an IEP at his school. They didn't fight us because it's obvious he needs help. He doesn't have a problem learning but his behavior gets in the way of other kids learning and he's constantly in trouble. He has a CHINS and has admitted to smoking pot. This is all in the past 4 months. He sees a counselor every 2 weeks and we have medication evaluations every 2 weeks. I have an appointment for a new neuro evaluation June 28th. He is also labelled as a bully. We have good days and bad days. It's just so nice to find a community that will understand what I am saying and not judge. I'm so sick of being judged by my sons behavior...the courts, the schools, my family.. If you have any advice I'm open to it!