Hello and let me introduce myself by letting everyone know how desperate I am in seeking an explanation for my 2 year old daughter's behavior. My daughter is a beautiful little girl who is very sweet, intelligent and friendly but has an EXTREMELY volatile and unpredictable temperament. It has gotten to the point where I get nervous when she is around me and I am going to see a therapist. I am severly depressed. My daughter is my life, I live for her like every mother lives for her child. But I am so tired of doing so much and working so hard for my daughter for her to have these violent and aggressive outbursts and extreme mood swings.....and then be fine and rosy with the world 2 seconds later. Here behavior patterns go something like this: -Gets frustrated extremely easily (example, tries to put on her shoes but gets stuck and starts kicking, screaming, flailing, hittiing me and hitting objects and hurting herself by smacking herself in the head) -I took her to wash her hands today after school which we always do and she threw a monstrous tantrum which consisted of screaming, hitting, kicking for about 5 minutes. For something that we do every day!!!!! She does not calm down easily and the more you talk to her calmly and try to get her to relax the more extreme and violent the tantrum gets. It seems like she disconnects from the world and goes into some sort of "tantrum trance." I have even had people mention to friends of mind in public places that they think I must abuse her because of her behavior (which is the farthest thing from the truth, we don't even spank her!!!) -She is starting to have an extremely difficult time accepting the word NO. Like all toddlers do I am sure, but she takes it to a violent extreme. -Asks for help for simple things that she knows how to do about 1,000 times a day. I think to myself somethimes that she will grow up to be utterly useless. She is excessively whiny and whines and cries most of the day, sometimes for what seems like no reason. The bottom line is I want nothing more than to be a good mom, to do things with my daughter and share everything that is special to me with her. That is all I've ever wanted. But I can't, she is a ticking time bomb and I never know when and where she will explode. And once she does, there is no calming her down using suggested methods. Her tantrums and whining keep going and going and going. I don't know what else, to do, I have even considered suicide as sick as that sounds. I am sick of people telling me that I am the problem and that my daughter is just going through the terrible twos. This is something different. Does anyone have a similar experience??? Anything please!!!!!!!