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I'm new here- 18 yr old son- 5150 extended 14 days for first time-desperate mom
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<blockquote data-quote="wisernow" data-source="post: 715885" data-attributes="member: 20373"><p>Firstly welcome! I am so very sorry you are going through this. I agree with the others that right now you need to care for yourself and your two daughters and give him some space....in fact lots of space. My son changed quite a bit in his teens , was suicidal and had to be removed from the home because of violence. He changed because of drugs. His drug use brought on other issues and sadly in his later twenties he was diagnosed with a serious mental illness. When I reflect back on that time, if love could have saved him from his own actions it would have. However the drugs took over, changed his personality and thinking. Your son needs to want to get better, and get sober. You can make yourself crazy thinking you can fix or save him. You cant. And all of the emotional energy you are using, will be lost on your daughters. Know that you are a good mom. They need you right now too. But more importantly be kind to yourself. These types of challenges can sometimes make us question everything. There is a great article on detachment on this site. Please start to read it. Think about it. and when ready try to practice it. Your son will always be your son, and will come back to you IF and When he is ready. Sadly we have no control over when that will happen. Hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wisernow, post: 715885, member: 20373"] Firstly welcome! I am so very sorry you are going through this. I agree with the others that right now you need to care for yourself and your two daughters and give him some space....in fact lots of space. My son changed quite a bit in his teens , was suicidal and had to be removed from the home because of violence. He changed because of drugs. His drug use brought on other issues and sadly in his later twenties he was diagnosed with a serious mental illness. When I reflect back on that time, if love could have saved him from his own actions it would have. However the drugs took over, changed his personality and thinking. Your son needs to want to get better, and get sober. You can make yourself crazy thinking you can fix or save him. You cant. And all of the emotional energy you are using, will be lost on your daughters. Know that you are a good mom. They need you right now too. But more importantly be kind to yourself. These types of challenges can sometimes make us question everything. There is a great article on detachment on this site. Please start to read it. Think about it. and when ready try to practice it. Your son will always be your son, and will come back to you IF and When he is ready. Sadly we have no control over when that will happen. Hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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