drama_mama85
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Hello.
My name is Mallory and I have a psycho needy family, I guess you could say. I was referred by a member here because our sons are peas of the same pod and we connected on a different forum for moms.
Just a little background- if you look at my siggy, I have 2 sons and my first is a difficult child and the other is my easy child. They have been polar opposites from the day my 2nd was born. They were totally different babies and now as my youngest enters the "terrible twos" it's not nearly as bad as when Aiden was two. Corrigan is exactly what I expected a toddler to be like. Aiden was a toddler from hell!
I knew something was up with Aiden at about age 1.5 when I began to really implement discipline. Discipline and punishments had no effect and he insisted upon the opposite of everything I said or encouraged...and even to this day, that's what I deal with. Things have calmed down some since the toddler years have melted away and he is approaching 5, but not alot. I deal with apparent symptoms of ODD and ADHD everyday.
Currently, I am awaiting free assistance from my local school district in order to have him evaluated and treated. Luckily, my school system has a very wide variety of options available to me and since we are a lower income family, this is basically our only option. So, it is the route we are currently pursuing.
I have also implemented my own version of beh. mod. therapy (based on research I've done) and my difficult child seems to be improving somewhat...but we have such a hard time following it because things change so frequently in our house because of our schedules and what we do that its tough to follow a routine and keep up with charts. We're trying, but it's not doing the job it could, I think. I hope. Honestly, we're just scrambling for a solution because after 4 years of having him, we are at our wits end and just need a solution if there is one.
Also, I do have bipolar disorder myself. I'm not currently medicated, but I seem to manage fairly well on sheer will power and just fighing manic or depressive urges. And, my husband has undiagnosed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and paranoid schizophrenia. It has only been really apparent to me in the last 2-3 years. He cleans obsessively and worries excessively and has fairly severe paranoia attacks sometimes and minor hallucinations (auditory and visual) and it's a real pain to live with. But, I love my husband and I will stand by him through it. Hopefully someday we will be able to look into treatment for him...but right now, Aiden is the focus. husband manages fairly well and has been able to keep a job for over 2 years and is even being considered for management at his job- he just maintains very well. And sometimes, when he is at his worst, I can snap him out of his funks he gets into if I say the right thing and we've been through counseling so he knows how to listen to me and do as I say in regards to his thoughts...basically, he bounces things off of me and makes decisions based on my reactions. He can basically tell from my reactions to things if he's going too far- like with his paranoia and stuff.
I do hope what I've said about my husband is understandable. I really dont know if I explained it well. I dont think I've ever explained his problems in type like this before. Other forums I've been on were all mommy forums and that's just not something I would really talk much about with "regular" people. lol
So, anyways, I'm glad to be here and I hope to find support and guidance and friendships and I'm most of all looking forward to the feeling of security and not loneliness. Not being able to really talk about it because no one seems to really understand is aggravating. So, I'm glad my friend referred me!
My name is Mallory and I have a psycho needy family, I guess you could say. I was referred by a member here because our sons are peas of the same pod and we connected on a different forum for moms.
Just a little background- if you look at my siggy, I have 2 sons and my first is a difficult child and the other is my easy child. They have been polar opposites from the day my 2nd was born. They were totally different babies and now as my youngest enters the "terrible twos" it's not nearly as bad as when Aiden was two. Corrigan is exactly what I expected a toddler to be like. Aiden was a toddler from hell!
I knew something was up with Aiden at about age 1.5 when I began to really implement discipline. Discipline and punishments had no effect and he insisted upon the opposite of everything I said or encouraged...and even to this day, that's what I deal with. Things have calmed down some since the toddler years have melted away and he is approaching 5, but not alot. I deal with apparent symptoms of ODD and ADHD everyday.
Currently, I am awaiting free assistance from my local school district in order to have him evaluated and treated. Luckily, my school system has a very wide variety of options available to me and since we are a lower income family, this is basically our only option. So, it is the route we are currently pursuing.
I have also implemented my own version of beh. mod. therapy (based on research I've done) and my difficult child seems to be improving somewhat...but we have such a hard time following it because things change so frequently in our house because of our schedules and what we do that its tough to follow a routine and keep up with charts. We're trying, but it's not doing the job it could, I think. I hope. Honestly, we're just scrambling for a solution because after 4 years of having him, we are at our wits end and just need a solution if there is one.
Also, I do have bipolar disorder myself. I'm not currently medicated, but I seem to manage fairly well on sheer will power and just fighing manic or depressive urges. And, my husband has undiagnosed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and paranoid schizophrenia. It has only been really apparent to me in the last 2-3 years. He cleans obsessively and worries excessively and has fairly severe paranoia attacks sometimes and minor hallucinations (auditory and visual) and it's a real pain to live with. But, I love my husband and I will stand by him through it. Hopefully someday we will be able to look into treatment for him...but right now, Aiden is the focus. husband manages fairly well and has been able to keep a job for over 2 years and is even being considered for management at his job- he just maintains very well. And sometimes, when he is at his worst, I can snap him out of his funks he gets into if I say the right thing and we've been through counseling so he knows how to listen to me and do as I say in regards to his thoughts...basically, he bounces things off of me and makes decisions based on my reactions. He can basically tell from my reactions to things if he's going too far- like with his paranoia and stuff.
I do hope what I've said about my husband is understandable. I really dont know if I explained it well. I dont think I've ever explained his problems in type like this before. Other forums I've been on were all mommy forums and that's just not something I would really talk much about with "regular" people. lol
So, anyways, I'm glad to be here and I hope to find support and guidance and friendships and I'm most of all looking forward to the feeling of security and not loneliness. Not being able to really talk about it because no one seems to really understand is aggravating. So, I'm glad my friend referred me!
