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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 676226" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi DWK, welcome to the forum, so sorry for your troubles and need to be here. My, this is quite difficult.</p><p>I agree with Rosie on meeting with your husband to see where you both stand on this. The stress and drama of dealing with a drug addict is too much for anyone to handle. Especially, someone under a no stress order from the doctor. We are just not equipped to deal with it. Daughter is 27 and an adult, and will do as she pleases. This is not healthy for<em> any of you, including her</em>.</p><p>The fact that both of you left and she is in your home, sends a message, you lose, she wins. Why would she have to change, with a win like this? </p><p></p><p>It is important you and husband stand together on this. Both of you need to be on the same page, otherwise his d cs will just keep undermining you.</p><p></p><p>Most of us will tell you also, it is no use arguing with a drug addict, they make no sense, and do not care how they treat others. There is no getting through to them.</p><p></p><p>I concur with SomeWhereOutThere, if stepdaughter is to be removed, the police need to be there. Is this your home, or are you renting?</p><p>There are eviction laws in states also, that may have to be looked into. My neighbor left her home to live with her boyfriend. Her son, in the meantime, has a live in girlfriend who caused trouble for the neighborhood, (dealing drugs and loose dogs) Mom came home to try to straighten things out, the police couldn't do a thing, because girlfriend had mail addressed to her at the home, Mom didn't!</p><p>One must be careful, when ceding property and occupancy.</p><p>The laws are different, state by state. You mentioned your step daughter has three children, are they under her care? This is a concern. Her children do need help, they are defenseless. I would think about involving CPS. The safety of three minors is top priority.</p><p>There is much for you to think about, but you must find out what your husband is willing to do. Standing together is important, otherwise you are a lone soldier, fighting an uphill battle.</p><p>Keep posting and let us know how you are doing, it helps to know you are not alone. Yours is a tough situation, many of us have been through the wringer dealing with d c's, so we understand how hard it is. You are not alone.</p><p>Take care, I am sorry for your hurting heart.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 676226, member: 19522"] Hi DWK, welcome to the forum, so sorry for your troubles and need to be here. My, this is quite difficult. I agree with Rosie on meeting with your husband to see where you both stand on this. The stress and drama of dealing with a drug addict is too much for anyone to handle. Especially, someone under a no stress order from the doctor. We are just not equipped to deal with it. Daughter is 27 and an adult, and will do as she pleases. This is not healthy for[I] any of you, including her[/I]. The fact that both of you left and she is in your home, sends a message, you lose, she wins. Why would she have to change, with a win like this? It is important you and husband stand together on this. Both of you need to be on the same page, otherwise his d cs will just keep undermining you. Most of us will tell you also, it is no use arguing with a drug addict, they make no sense, and do not care how they treat others. There is no getting through to them. I concur with SomeWhereOutThere, if stepdaughter is to be removed, the police need to be there. Is this your home, or are you renting? There are eviction laws in states also, that may have to be looked into. My neighbor left her home to live with her boyfriend. Her son, in the meantime, has a live in girlfriend who caused trouble for the neighborhood, (dealing drugs and loose dogs) Mom came home to try to straighten things out, the police couldn't do a thing, because girlfriend had mail addressed to her at the home, Mom didn't! One must be careful, when ceding property and occupancy. The laws are different, state by state. You mentioned your step daughter has three children, are they under her care? This is a concern. Her children do need help, they are defenseless. I would think about involving CPS. The safety of three minors is top priority. There is much for you to think about, but you must find out what your husband is willing to do. Standing together is important, otherwise you are a lone soldier, fighting an uphill battle. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing, it helps to know you are not alone. Yours is a tough situation, many of us have been through the wringer dealing with d c's, so we understand how hard it is. You are not alone. Take care, I am sorry for your hurting heart. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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