I'm proud of my difficult child!

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by Kathy813, Jun 10, 2012.

  1. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member

    difficult child's car has started overheating and husband told her that she can't drive it until we can get it looked at. She was unhappy because she wanted to go see her boyfriend (AKA PeterPan). We told her no.

    We then went off to have lunch with easy child (difficult child was invited but didn't want to go). difficult child called while we were there and asked us to stop at the grocery store on the way home so we did. While I was walking up and down the aisles, difficult child called and said that she had done something really good and wanted to tell me about it.

    She said that PeterPan had called and wanted her to come right over (yes . . . he says jump and she does but that's a problem for another day). So, she got in her car and started backing down the driveway despite the fact that we had told her not to take the car anywhere.

    difficult child said she stopped at the end of the driveway and thought about it and realized that this was not a good idea. She said she realized if she destroyed this car she wouldn't have a car anymore and that we would be really upset with her. So she called the boyfriend and told him she couldn't come over right then and pulled the car back into the driveway.

    This is exactly what DBT is supposed to be teaching her. To stop and think about her actions and the consequences of the actions before she does something. This is huge for my difficult child.

    I told her that I was proud of her and that this was something to record in her DBT therapy book.

    Only you guys would understand how excited I am that difficult child started to do something wrong and thought better about it. Hooray!!!

  2. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    That's great! DDD
  3. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I am proud of her! She used her wise mind!
  4. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    Kathy, that's wonderful. She's starting to put it all together and think like a easy child! I think it's so cute that she called you in the supermarket...she couldn't wait to tell you. Maybe soon she'll tell peter pan to go fly a kite!
  5. keista

    keista New Member

    Most excellent! This post put a smile on my face.
  6. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Kathy, it's actually BETTER that she started down the wrong path and self corrected, than if she hadn't even gone and started the car... because it is very hard to self-correct once in motion... HUGE step forward!
  7. buddy

    buddy New Member

    GREAT! That is huge!
  8. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    HUGE accomplishment!!!! So very happy for all of you!
  9. Hopeless

    Hopeless ....Hopeful Now

    Yay she thought about it and made a great decision!
  10. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

  11. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    It's wonderful to see her put what she is learning into practice. Even more wonderful that she recognizes her progress.

  12. exhausted

    exhausted Active Member

    Wonderful news!
  13. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    AWESOME!!! I have this HUGE grin on my face! I'm proud of her too!!!