This is me going no where. Another morning of fighting with both children. An hour to get them out of bed another 40 to get them going. I used to get them up at 6:30am/ enough time to wake up,eat etc. and drive 10 minutes to school. Now because they don't get up It gets to the point we have to start early and constantly go in there. An average of 15/30 times no kidding telling them to get up. We start gentle- lights on, good morning sweeties, time to get up and so on. I know late them be late and learn. My son never learns from this, only tantrums a couple hours and says who cares. Having them home screaming bloody murder,slamming doors, hitting each other etc, no thanks! I know, stuff out of both rooms, privileges away etc. According to my daughter we are suppose to have freedom of speech so she can do anything she wants anytime she wants. TV,Computer,No shower,No tutor (math) she was forced to do Piano in order to stay in her private school cuz of my grandpa. When she quit, she promised to do sports or another instrument. Nothing! Computer/TV/Nintendo. My son is the same way. He even threatened to kick me when I told him (after asking 2 times nicely to please go to the bathroom) that he had to use it or he is not walking out he door. He will hold it until he pees in his pants. Im trying the Chart with them, including them, letting them" make decisions" But No. Then they wanted candy grams for their whole class, this adds up, plus we give money for valentines party, functions there , its as if we are holding our wallets out never closing it at home and school. They do not appreciate it. My friend says then shes worse than me with her "forcing her child this like get ready, study etc" Im so fed up. I know your all's problems are worse then mine. I as well as the kids the constant arguing has to stop. I'm the parent but yet nothing I do works. They are their dad, they want their dad and I told them this morning I will send both of them to him and their new mom and they never have to hear from me again. I know you shouldn't say this to your kids. This is what they want. Their dad wont care when they miss school, he will only care when it interferes with his sex and drunk life. But he will just leave them at home , wander the streets or to whatever drunk friend will take them. I told them this and they say nothing, they know he drinks. My daughter said she can tell because he smells like it and acts a little different! Still no word from their dad as I said before. I feel like blah because I told my dad I cant handle them or want them like this. The kids I bet didn't hear all I said so probably think it meant I don't want them period. I do want them, I cant live like this, they cant live like this. Its funny their dads not around but yet they want him. My daughter hates properly washing up,her dad I can say is like me and I am appreciative for him to be strong on the shower issue. See, I can praise their dad! I told him he's too old to go in their with her, but at least that's one rule I know he will enforce. Im just the worst mom ever I guess. I feel so horrible coming here complaining, when Ktllc little girl is having speech issues, and buddy, Insane....., every one here. I hope all your little ones get better. I know you all are going through worse as your little ones. Hugs to you all.