I'm smoking, I'm drinking, I'm praying...care to send support?

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by DDD, May 23, 2011.

  1. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    GFGmom evidently has decided to derail my efforts to get difficult child's diability reinstated. I am SO sick of her self-serving motivations that I can't see straight!Yep.........this is a major whine plus a request for support (dance, pray, do beads).The meeting is Wednesday to protest difficult child's disability interruption. Today I find out that GFGmom has been going behind my back to convince difficult child to do it "her way" AGAIN. Fortunately I had a contact call me today "off the record' and tell me that GFGmom has taken difficult child to the apartment complex that has "supports" and has decided he prefers the more immediate access to the free apartment. Evidently she is also trying (or may be succeeding?) in convincing difficult child to keep her on as his financial advisor and move into the "iffy" apartment complex that is free. Yep, "free" is the key word. She will have him out of her house, will use his food stamps and be glad that there is no rent for him. Further she has gotten him a Pell grant to take classes at the local community college. Yikes. That means she gets hold of more money from him.I'm sick. I'm smoking again. I absolutely know that she is following the money in lieu of letting him try to get a life of his own. It is a terrible thing to detest your own biokid. Poor difficult child has one chance. It is my way. It will take a little whle but he can have supports, a possible job and independence but he has to work with me instead of his GFGmom. I'm just sick. Please send what support you can that I prevail with the disability people. His future depends on it. DDD
  2. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh DDD...fingers crossed that gfgmom gets run over by a truck as much as I hate to even say that. ugh.
  3. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm in your corner 3D. Hoping you can get done what needs to be done.

    Prayers, beads, dancing, the whole bit coming your way.

  4. elizabrary

    elizabrary Member

    Sending positive energy to you! Hang it there. It sounds rough, but you'll make it!
  5. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Lots of hugs... It's awful, but you're a warrior mom, you'll make it.

    And I'm with Janet...s
  6. keista

    keista New Member

    Positive thoughts and energy for you.
  7. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    OMW, I'm surprised you haven't convinced him to get a restraining order against her. Any way someone in an official capacity can kick her out of his finances and make it stick? *hugs*
  8. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    You know you've got my full support. Praying hard, doing some bead rattling, honing in with good positive thoughts, will even do the nekked chicken dance......once the storms stop.

    This makes my stomach drop through the floor, so I can imagine what this is doing to you.

    I'm with Janet on the whole......uh, karma thing.

  9. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I got me a see-gar in the fridge. I have a bottle of wine open... Given that I wasn't raptured this weekend, that's about as good as I can do. ;)

    Don't let her get to you 3-D. Tomorrow's another day.
  10. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    OMW Witz.......pass the cutters.......I needs me a see-gar. ROFLMbutt off.

    D3 - I'm gonna be right behind you in spirit. HOLY SMOKES!!!!!!!!!!
  11. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Thanks. The worst part is that difficult child is once again being put in that awkward position of having to choose. It's driving me crazy that he is torn. DDD
  12. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    UGH! Insanity. Sending lots of positive energy and prayers your way ....
  13. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    So Sorry! I'm rattling beads, saying prayers, and will even do the nekkid chicken dance if it'll help... SFR
  14. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I am SO SORRY. Praying, dancing, rattling beads. Get that boy alone and have a heart to heart - let him see how his mom has stolen from him all those years. Then file your complaints against her with SS for fraud, with the IRS for tax fraud for claiming him as a dependent and taking his $$ and fight her. Then go and tell them how you raised him on YOUR income alone because she kept his disability money all those years and how she has taken his money and left him with NO food and tossed him out if he didn't have any money - and how he is UNABLE to remember things and protect himself.

    Also get an attorney and file for guardianship or conservatorship (control of his finanaces) with the courts. The Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) has impaired him to the point that he CANNOT protect himself and YOU must do it for him because his mother is a THIEF and scam artist who only has time for him when he has money to give her.

    It is time to legally break her hold on him. If he keeps falling for this then he will NEVER have a chance. It is time. We are all with you!!
  15. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I agree with Susie about filing complaints with SS and the IRS in order to protect him.

    Sending many hugs and lots of extra strength, DDD.
  16. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Perfect Witz!!!

    DDD hang in there, you will be in my thoughts and prayers - and oh good god why is it that some people are SO evil. GRRRR.
  17. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    UG, She needs to be stopped but darned if I know how. I will pray that things go well. _RM
  18. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    You got it, D3. Hugs.
  19. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Sending more support. I still have a hard wrapping my head around the idea that a bio parent can be so evil! I feel so bad that he struggles with the loyalty issues too. Big hugs to you!
  20. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Thanks all. I posted a separate Update. DDD