How mean of your daughter, not to mention rude! Of course you are not a 'tard, which I assume is short for retard and not bas----. What nerve your daughter has to call her mother that. I hope she is getting turkey flavored soap to wash her mouth out for Thanksgiving.
You are a kind, gentle, and loving person to all the people in your life. Your ANIMAL children are included because they are far more loving and less rude and mean than your human children. Do what you need to do to be able to put the dogs where you need them to be. It is OK to be upset and/or need someone else to do it.
Maybe you should ask your daughter if next time she is upset about something you should call her a "tard". Our children, esp at these me-me-me-me times of year, need to be reminded we are people that they show respect to.
Even if you don't think your daughter was out of line, you are STILL not a 'tard' and are wise to know that you cannot handle dropping them off. It would be an awful time to have an accident because you were upset or crying.
Love you, Happy Turkey Day!