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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 647060" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I love hearing other happy endings.</p><p></p><p>I really, truly believe that the only way to get one is to stop the money, stop feeling sorry for them (hard as that is, but that does not help them), stop bailing them out of trouble and letting them face the consequences. To me, from being here for over a decade, it seems like the ones who turn around do it after we decide WE.ARE.DONE! And we have to mean it. And they have to know we mean it.</p><p></p><p>I can't remember every story I've read, but I can't remember any happy endings while the adult child is living at home, receiving aid and comfort for his or her habit at home, or being inconsistent. We have mommy hearts that melt when we hear our kids lie and say, "I'm hungry" and we want to feed them. But that just helps them keep using and the money for food usually goes to drugs...there are many places to get free food and those on the street know where to go.</p><p></p><p>It doesn't always work. But it works better than keeping them at home and ignoring that they are snorting, sticking dirty needles in their arms (I was terrified Daughter would get HIV), and stealing from us and probably innocent people too. Keeping them home is for us. It makes us feel better. But in my opinion (which is just my opinion, by the way<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" />) it does not encourage them to change their lives. Drugs are so seductive. They need powerful motivation to quit. And usually we have no idea the half of how much drugs they are using. We sure didn't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 647060, member: 1550"] I love hearing other happy endings. I really, truly believe that the only way to get one is to stop the money, stop feeling sorry for them (hard as that is, but that does not help them), stop bailing them out of trouble and letting them face the consequences. To me, from being here for over a decade, it seems like the ones who turn around do it after we decide WE.ARE.DONE! And we have to mean it. And they have to know we mean it. I can't remember every story I've read, but I can't remember any happy endings while the adult child is living at home, receiving aid and comfort for his or her habit at home, or being inconsistent. We have mommy hearts that melt when we hear our kids lie and say, "I'm hungry" and we want to feed them. But that just helps them keep using and the money for food usually goes to drugs...there are many places to get free food and those on the street know where to go. It doesn't always work. But it works better than keeping them at home and ignoring that they are snorting, sticking dirty needles in their arms (I was terrified Daughter would get HIV), and stealing from us and probably innocent people too. Keeping them home is for us. It makes us feel better. But in my opinion (which is just my opinion, by the way:p) it does not encourage them to change their lives. Drugs are so seductive. They need powerful motivation to quit. And usually we have no idea the half of how much drugs they are using. We sure didn't. [/QUOTE]
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