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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 710445" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>I'm still struggling with what to do <em>particularly in regards to Ferb.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em> </em>I do feel that I have a moral obligation to turn this teacher in to the school. I whole-heartedly agree that what she is doing is wrong on many different levels. I also agree that female predator is no different from a male predator. I view her as such. Want to know how she gets to know these boys? She's a gamer. She games with them online and gets to know them. She is approximately 30 years old.</p><p></p><p>I also know on some deep level that if I act on this, that I may sever my relationship with Ferb completely. He thinks he knows what he is doing. I know this, because I was exactly like him at 18. I had multiple relationships with multiple older men. The difference was that I was open about the relationships. My mother never said a single word about the inappropriateness of these relationships. I didn't understand the impact of those decisions that I made until I was in my thirties.</p><p></p><p>If Ferb were not hiding this relationship from me, I would be all over it. There is some piece of him which understands that what he is doing is wrong on some level. I also understand that if I am the one who walks into that office and causes an end to all this hanky panky (you know you're old when you use hanky panky), then Ferb will turn on me. He will protect this skanky teacher, vilify me and my tenuous relationship with him will blow like a volcano. I know my child. I want to do what is right; I want to stop her. But my son is my first priority. I have to protect my relationship with him like the delicate egg that it is. He is not emotionally stable. In the past few months he has trusted me enough to get him the help that he needs to stay alive. I must proceed with the utmost caution.</p><p></p><p>Oh, Ferb owns and pays for his cell phone completely. I think that entitles him to privacy with regards to that device. I do search his room for marijuana.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 710445, member: 11832"] I'm still struggling with what to do [I]particularly in regards to Ferb. [/I]I do feel that I have a moral obligation to turn this teacher in to the school. I whole-heartedly agree that what she is doing is wrong on many different levels. I also agree that female predator is no different from a male predator. I view her as such. Want to know how she gets to know these boys? She's a gamer. She games with them online and gets to know them. She is approximately 30 years old. I also know on some deep level that if I act on this, that I may sever my relationship with Ferb completely. He thinks he knows what he is doing. I know this, because I was exactly like him at 18. I had multiple relationships with multiple older men. The difference was that I was open about the relationships. My mother never said a single word about the inappropriateness of these relationships. I didn't understand the impact of those decisions that I made until I was in my thirties. If Ferb were not hiding this relationship from me, I would be all over it. There is some piece of him which understands that what he is doing is wrong on some level. I also understand that if I am the one who walks into that office and causes an end to all this hanky panky (you know you're old when you use hanky panky), then Ferb will turn on me. He will protect this skanky teacher, vilify me and my tenuous relationship with him will blow like a volcano. I know my child. I want to do what is right; I want to stop her. But my son is my first priority. I have to protect my relationship with him like the delicate egg that it is. He is not emotionally stable. In the past few months he has trusted me enough to get him the help that he needs to stay alive. I must proceed with the utmost caution. Oh, Ferb owns and pays for his cell phone completely. I think that entitles him to privacy with regards to that device. I do search his room for marijuana. [/QUOTE]
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