DammitJanet
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Star once told me that when I let Cory come back here I should get a contract with him before he ever moved in about what the rules would be and I didnt and it was a huge mistake. I think I should take her advice with Buck too. Of course he is already here too so it may be a bit too late but I think I will simply tell him if he doesnt sign it he can hit the road. I will do this contract when Tony is at work so it isnt an issue. I have put rules onto paper before but it was never signed.
One thing I do know is I simply cannot do is handle having him here more than the 4 months it will take to hear from disability. They have told him he will hear from them with a decision by 4 months one way or another. That is the norm for the first decision. Now I know first decisions are normally turned down but he does have a slightly better chance of getting it because he is over 50, never graduated HS, always worked menial low class jobs and the chances of training him to do something else are pretty much nil. That gives him a slightly leg up on other people even though his disabilities arent all that bad.
I am trying to insist he apply for jobs anyway because disability isnt a sure thing. You really cant count your eggs before they are hatched. I mean if he doesnt get it what is he going to do? Expect to sit here until the entire appeal process goes through? I will never allow that. Already Keyana is upset because she doesnt have her room. She said something to me on the way home last night about how we might not have room for her soon and she would be squeezed out! No way baby. He will go first. See he is staying in her room.
He is also slacking off on doing the dishes. I am having a plumbing issue under my kitchen sink and he is making absolutely no effort to figure it out. He swears he has worked so much in construction and built all these houses and he cant look under a sink and figure out why a pipe is leaking? We have a bucket under there and empty it when it gets full. How hard is that? He cant figure that out. He just lets the water get all over the floor and sit there. My entire subflooring in the kitchen is going to have to be replaced now because he is just letting it sit there. We will be lucky if someone doesnt fall through the floor now.
I saw a sign up a really good fast food restaurant last night called Cookout. Its a big step up from Burger King where he last worked and he bragged up working there. I later found out he only worked there for 3 months! Cookout pays very well for fast food. I told him the hours to apply and he basically blew me off. Said something about...well he had eaten there once or twice, didnt know if he wanted to work at one. WHAT? How about working anywhere.
I think I am going to have to make a contract where he agrees to not use his dremel past 11 pm because it keeps Billy awake at night, he will talk to all members of the family with respect, he will be in his room by 11, he will clean the kitchen each night, he will help me with whatever chores I ask him to do, he will look for work 2 days a week and bring us signed proof from the places he applies.
Think about other things and add to my list.
One thing I do know is I simply cannot do is handle having him here more than the 4 months it will take to hear from disability. They have told him he will hear from them with a decision by 4 months one way or another. That is the norm for the first decision. Now I know first decisions are normally turned down but he does have a slightly better chance of getting it because he is over 50, never graduated HS, always worked menial low class jobs and the chances of training him to do something else are pretty much nil. That gives him a slightly leg up on other people even though his disabilities arent all that bad.
I am trying to insist he apply for jobs anyway because disability isnt a sure thing. You really cant count your eggs before they are hatched. I mean if he doesnt get it what is he going to do? Expect to sit here until the entire appeal process goes through? I will never allow that. Already Keyana is upset because she doesnt have her room. She said something to me on the way home last night about how we might not have room for her soon and she would be squeezed out! No way baby. He will go first. See he is staying in her room.
He is also slacking off on doing the dishes. I am having a plumbing issue under my kitchen sink and he is making absolutely no effort to figure it out. He swears he has worked so much in construction and built all these houses and he cant look under a sink and figure out why a pipe is leaking? We have a bucket under there and empty it when it gets full. How hard is that? He cant figure that out. He just lets the water get all over the floor and sit there. My entire subflooring in the kitchen is going to have to be replaced now because he is just letting it sit there. We will be lucky if someone doesnt fall through the floor now.
I saw a sign up a really good fast food restaurant last night called Cookout. Its a big step up from Burger King where he last worked and he bragged up working there. I later found out he only worked there for 3 months! Cookout pays very well for fast food. I told him the hours to apply and he basically blew me off. Said something about...well he had eaten there once or twice, didnt know if he wanted to work at one. WHAT? How about working anywhere.
I think I am going to have to make a contract where he agrees to not use his dremel past 11 pm because it keeps Billy awake at night, he will talk to all members of the family with respect, he will be in his room by 11, he will clean the kitchen each night, he will help me with whatever chores I ask him to do, he will look for work 2 days a week and bring us signed proof from the places he applies.
Think about other things and add to my list.
