As i said in my previous post, difficult child is 3 and has aged out of early intervention. the caiu reffered us to behavioral health and we had his (3rd) evaluation at the beginning of june. then this past thursday the coordinator and the behavior specialist came to the house for the initial meeting. now, i had not been given the opportunity to see the written evaluation prior to this, and it was handed to me at this meeting in the midst of explaining services and telling me that we could get a re evaluation in 2 months and so on. so this is probably partially my fault.....i didnt immediatley stop and read it. i read it after they left. its taken me this long to calm down and be able to post about it. and here's where i say ok maybe im over reacting or taking things too personal. she listed diagnosis 1 as disruptive behavior disorder not otherwise specified, but then for diagnosis 2 she put "parent-child relational problem". correct me if im wrong.....but isnt that what would be expected with a child like this! of course there are relational problems!! my difficult child is having problems, wont or cant listen, breaks things, cant sit in a cart at a store, cant even play with other kids without there being a problem, yells and screams if he doesnt get what he wants within a millisecond of demanding it, cant sleep good, wont stay in his carseat.....wouldnt you have relational problems too??!?!?! maybe i shouldnt have been so honest about my frustration, but i thought we were trying to get help! now i feel like ive been labeled "the problem" and they are gonna be looking at me and not giving him the attention and help he needs. my mom has been there done that with both my brother and sister ( bro is bi polar and sis is mild mr and adhd, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), odd) so shes been my biggest support with all this. she's told me we need to tread lightly here cause theyve had similiar problems with people not seeing the whole picture. i feel very frustrated with this whole situation.