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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 627457" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry you are so miserable. First question, what shoes do you have and how old are they? You MUST MUST MUST invest in GOOD shoes. New ones every 3 mos or so if you walk much at all. You may be surprised at the difference they make just around the house.</p><p></p><p>I know they are somehow a huge fashion disaster, but all I can wear are crocs. not knock-offs, the brand. I have a strange family foot thing and trying on shoes is very very painful after the second or 3rd pair. You likely need more support than a croc, so go look at the name brand sneaker or walking shoes and buy a NEW pair that is comfortable. If you have to 'break it in' then it is the wrong shoe. It should feel good the first step or two. Then wear that shoe in the house all day.</p><p></p><p>My dad had the horrible leg pain you are feeling for years. He was a teacher and ALL classrooms were concrete and maybe had vinyl over them, maybe. The first 20 yrs he was a shop teacher and those rooms were always concrete. His feet and legs would hurt like the devil. My mom forced him to buy really GOOD shoes and always wear them to work and it makes a HUGE difference. It esp helped with the pain between the ankle and knee and with the foot/ankle pain. If he bought cheap shoes or didn't replace them, my mom would refuse to rub his legs when they hurt until he got new ones because it made that big a difference.</p><p></p><p>When you are sitting, what position are your feet in? Do you need a footstool to make your feet touch the floor with-o the back of your legs pushing the cushion down a lot? If you do, get a footstool and use it. It will also help with the pain. If the chair is too big or your feet don't touch the floor, you end up with circulation problems and this increases pain and problems like risk of blood clots. You can even make a cheap footstool by using an empty 2 liter bottle (or full one) with a cap on it. I generally have one for each foot if I need a footstool around the house while I am sitting (I am so short that my feet don't always reach the floor when I am standing up!) Then I don't have to chase around the house for a footstool after the kids 'borrow' it, because a round bottle isn't useful as a seat, chair, bookrest, or whatever the heck else they have taken my footstool for at that time. </p><p></p><p>Give the doctor some time, but call and remind them about the form when needed. Even docs have bad days. You should have seen my pain doctor appointment before last, yeesh. Talk about wrong side of the bed! This last visit she was herself again though. Thankfully, because she shot me full of botox at that appointment!</p><p></p><p>Do you have access to a pool? Anywhere in your town? Generally you can ask at any Ymca or Ywca with a pool and if you are disabled they will help iwth the fees so yuo can use the pool and equipment. A water exercise class or even just open pool time to walk around the pool could REALLY help iwth the knees. It is one of the best exercise options for those of us with weight and mobility issues because the water supports you AND helps exercise all muscle groups even if you just walk around or stand there in the water. It would be a small step to show a doctor you are serious about your health.</p><p></p><p>You likely need a doctor to help you stop smoking. There are all sorts of programs, and you need a coping tool to substitute for smoking and not just another source of nicotine. While he can be an idiot, Dr Phil's site does have links to resources for this. </p><p></p><p>Be careful with weight loss surgery. If your addiction is food, surgery won't help. A family friend had gastric bypass and it just made things worse. She couldn't stick to the diet and having less of a stomach and intestines meant she didn't get enough nutrients. She was on a bunch of time release medications and those cannot be taken after that kind of surgery because you do not have enough of your intestines and stomach for them to be absorbed properly or even for them to release the medications properly. It took me looking at the medication list for her husband and mother in law and saying "those won't EVER help her because they are time release medications. They don't stay in her body long enough to release so she needs immediate release versions" for the doctor to 'remember' to change her to short acting medications. This was almost 18 mos after the surgery! </p><p></p><p>I don't know if it is best to lose the smoking or weight first, but I bet if you talked to some docs they might be better able to help yuo make that decision. It cannot hurt to see the weight loss docs for a consult and to see which ones you like. I think the lap band is removable, and honestly it might be the best way to go because if the other way does not work, it REALLLY does not work. And if yuo cannot stick to the diet and avoid the greasy and sugary foods, gastric bypass will be a MAJOR problem as it has the dumping issue. Dumping refers to your body immediately ejecting any form of too sugary or too fatty or too off the diet food. It involves painful cramping and not always being able to leave the bathroom for quite a while or to wait to get into a bathroom if it is not right by you. J had a teacher who could not grasp this and would insist on eating birthday cake, cookies, etc... and then her class of 4th graders would be alone for an hour or more while she was in the bathroom. She wanted the school to move her class into the pre-K classroom because it had a bathroom right in the classroom (with a door, but in the room like a closet) rather than down the hallway (so the 3 and 4 yo kids could potty when needed) and tried to sue when told they would not let her 4th grade kids have that room so she could spend the day in the bathroom and still 'supervise' them from behind the bathroom door after she binged on donuts or cake or whatever. I heard the lawyers laughing about this one day as we waited for a hearing on another issue back then.</p><p></p><p>You really have to be able to make the dietary changes or the surgery will add a lot of problems to your life. But it can be worth it. </p><p></p><p>I hope some of this gives you some ideas to help. I hate that you are so miserable. Am sending a PM also. (((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 627457, member: 1233"] I am sorry you are so miserable. First question, what shoes do you have and how old are they? You MUST MUST MUST invest in GOOD shoes. New ones every 3 mos or so if you walk much at all. You may be surprised at the difference they make just around the house. I know they are somehow a huge fashion disaster, but all I can wear are crocs. not knock-offs, the brand. I have a strange family foot thing and trying on shoes is very very painful after the second or 3rd pair. You likely need more support than a croc, so go look at the name brand sneaker or walking shoes and buy a NEW pair that is comfortable. If you have to 'break it in' then it is the wrong shoe. It should feel good the first step or two. Then wear that shoe in the house all day. My dad had the horrible leg pain you are feeling for years. He was a teacher and ALL classrooms were concrete and maybe had vinyl over them, maybe. The first 20 yrs he was a shop teacher and those rooms were always concrete. His feet and legs would hurt like the devil. My mom forced him to buy really GOOD shoes and always wear them to work and it makes a HUGE difference. It esp helped with the pain between the ankle and knee and with the foot/ankle pain. If he bought cheap shoes or didn't replace them, my mom would refuse to rub his legs when they hurt until he got new ones because it made that big a difference. When you are sitting, what position are your feet in? Do you need a footstool to make your feet touch the floor with-o the back of your legs pushing the cushion down a lot? If you do, get a footstool and use it. It will also help with the pain. If the chair is too big or your feet don't touch the floor, you end up with circulation problems and this increases pain and problems like risk of blood clots. You can even make a cheap footstool by using an empty 2 liter bottle (or full one) with a cap on it. I generally have one for each foot if I need a footstool around the house while I am sitting (I am so short that my feet don't always reach the floor when I am standing up!) Then I don't have to chase around the house for a footstool after the kids 'borrow' it, because a round bottle isn't useful as a seat, chair, bookrest, or whatever the heck else they have taken my footstool for at that time. Give the doctor some time, but call and remind them about the form when needed. Even docs have bad days. You should have seen my pain doctor appointment before last, yeesh. Talk about wrong side of the bed! This last visit she was herself again though. Thankfully, because she shot me full of botox at that appointment! Do you have access to a pool? Anywhere in your town? Generally you can ask at any Ymca or Ywca with a pool and if you are disabled they will help iwth the fees so yuo can use the pool and equipment. A water exercise class or even just open pool time to walk around the pool could REALLY help iwth the knees. It is one of the best exercise options for those of us with weight and mobility issues because the water supports you AND helps exercise all muscle groups even if you just walk around or stand there in the water. It would be a small step to show a doctor you are serious about your health. You likely need a doctor to help you stop smoking. There are all sorts of programs, and you need a coping tool to substitute for smoking and not just another source of nicotine. While he can be an idiot, Dr Phil's site does have links to resources for this. Be careful with weight loss surgery. If your addiction is food, surgery won't help. A family friend had gastric bypass and it just made things worse. She couldn't stick to the diet and having less of a stomach and intestines meant she didn't get enough nutrients. She was on a bunch of time release medications and those cannot be taken after that kind of surgery because you do not have enough of your intestines and stomach for them to be absorbed properly or even for them to release the medications properly. It took me looking at the medication list for her husband and mother in law and saying "those won't EVER help her because they are time release medications. They don't stay in her body long enough to release so she needs immediate release versions" for the doctor to 'remember' to change her to short acting medications. This was almost 18 mos after the surgery! I don't know if it is best to lose the smoking or weight first, but I bet if you talked to some docs they might be better able to help yuo make that decision. It cannot hurt to see the weight loss docs for a consult and to see which ones you like. I think the lap band is removable, and honestly it might be the best way to go because if the other way does not work, it REALLLY does not work. And if yuo cannot stick to the diet and avoid the greasy and sugary foods, gastric bypass will be a MAJOR problem as it has the dumping issue. Dumping refers to your body immediately ejecting any form of too sugary or too fatty or too off the diet food. It involves painful cramping and not always being able to leave the bathroom for quite a while or to wait to get into a bathroom if it is not right by you. J had a teacher who could not grasp this and would insist on eating birthday cake, cookies, etc... and then her class of 4th graders would be alone for an hour or more while she was in the bathroom. She wanted the school to move her class into the pre-K classroom because it had a bathroom right in the classroom (with a door, but in the room like a closet) rather than down the hallway (so the 3 and 4 yo kids could potty when needed) and tried to sue when told they would not let her 4th grade kids have that room so she could spend the day in the bathroom and still 'supervise' them from behind the bathroom door after she binged on donuts or cake or whatever. I heard the lawyers laughing about this one day as we waited for a hearing on another issue back then. You really have to be able to make the dietary changes or the surgery will add a lot of problems to your life. But it can be worth it. I hope some of this gives you some ideas to help. I hate that you are so miserable. Am sending a PM also. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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