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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 647258" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That is the best thing you could do, Tish. Push that so hard. That is the core of who you are. Time will fly and the other things, the things you can do nothing about anyway, will not seem overwhelming.</p><p></p><p>It's genetic. I don't think the kids can help it, and the drugs they use push them over the line.</p><p></p><p>We talked on another thread about my having put my writing away out of guilt or a sense of bargaining or hope or whatever. It did not make a whit of difference for my kids, for me to do that. </p><p></p><p>Keep writing.</p><p></p><p>That is the thing that will save you.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I want you to check in, Tish. It is good for you to know you aren't alone with it (not strictly alone, not anymore). And it is good for us to know you are still out there, standing up, doing well.</p><p></p><p>Given the horror of the situations we find ourselves in with our kids, you are doing well. No one who has not lived it could know what this is like. We are all coping at the far, broken edge.</p><p></p><p>And then, it gets worse.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Possible for you and husband to take a weekend away, or a week away?</p><p></p><p>During the worst of it, husband would pop me into the car and drive me away. One time? He put me on a plane and sent me away for two weeks. When I got home? He'd painted the house and had the drapes cleaned. </p><p></p><p>Wait for it....</p><p></p><p>So, the painter got little dots of white paint from the ceiling on the carpet. The drapes, sun-damaged in the extreme, came back from the cleaners in shreds of sun-rotted cloth.</p><p></p><p>husband hung what there was to hang and headed for the airport.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>So, here is an interesting thing. </p><p></p><p>The drapes had been pricey. There was a special kind of rod with springs in it that required a certain kind of hook and whatever. So, I took them down altogether. That was the first time I wrapped a rod in grapevines (not real ones, silk ones) and tiny white lights. </p><p></p><p>Beautiful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 647258, member: 17461"] That is the best thing you could do, Tish. Push that so hard. That is the core of who you are. Time will fly and the other things, the things you can do nothing about anyway, will not seem overwhelming. It's genetic. I don't think the kids can help it, and the drugs they use push them over the line. We talked on another thread about my having put my writing away out of guilt or a sense of bargaining or hope or whatever. It did not make a whit of difference for my kids, for me to do that. Keep writing. That is the thing that will save you. I want you to check in, Tish. It is good for you to know you aren't alone with it (not strictly alone, not anymore). And it is good for us to know you are still out there, standing up, doing well. Given the horror of the situations we find ourselves in with our kids, you are doing well. No one who has not lived it could know what this is like. We are all coping at the far, broken edge. And then, it gets worse. *** Possible for you and husband to take a weekend away, or a week away? During the worst of it, husband would pop me into the car and drive me away. One time? He put me on a plane and sent me away for two weeks. When I got home? He'd painted the house and had the drapes cleaned. Wait for it.... So, the painter got little dots of white paint from the ceiling on the carpet. The drapes, sun-damaged in the extreme, came back from the cleaners in shreds of sun-rotted cloth. husband hung what there was to hang and headed for the airport. :O) Cedar So, here is an interesting thing. The drapes had been pricey. There was a special kind of rod with springs in it that required a certain kind of hook and whatever. So, I took them down altogether. That was the first time I wrapped a rod in grapevines (not real ones, silk ones) and tiny white lights. Beautiful. [/QUOTE]
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