Robinboots
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...me, that is! Seriously, am feeling a lot better about things and mostly able to concentrate. Still not sleeping, dang it!
In summation:
Last Saturday, GFG17 came home, I talked to him and said he MUST follow the rules because he was making me nuts and wearing me out. Which, of course, is his plan, but I was desperate. It's just never-ending, as you all know. So I said he had a choice, the first real-time, real-world decision - stay and follow the rules, or leave. He left.
Came back a few hours later, had done some laundry, then left again - without his clothes or anything. I didn't hear from him till the next day, and he wouldn't tell me where he was until Tuesday.
After he left, we found all sorts of interesting things in his car, including condoms and motel receipt. Nice. More and more stuff came to light - of course, he had told me that things would be fine if *I* would stop finding out the bad stuff. Whatever.
On Monday I talked to his DJO - naturally, the judge is out-of-town all week, but she wrote up a probation violation - turns out he was 100+ miles away, staying with a so-called adult, so I least I knew he was relatively safe. He texted me on Tuesday, after talking to his DJO, that he was coming home that night. I had more convos with the DJO, and with my lawyer. I was NOT looking forward to difficult child coming home and hanging out with me all week until the judge returns. He hasn't had his medications - Risperdone - since Sat. morning. Of course, any violence or threats and we'll immediately call the police.
THEN he texted and asked if he could stay there till Saturday, when he could get a ride home. Um, call your DJO, kiddo, and ask her - I am NOT making this call. So that's what he's doing. No idea if he called her or not, 'cause I really needed a break from talking about him, ya know?
And yes, there are options - if the court will utilize them. He could go back to detention; he could go to DYS; if "acts like a fool", to quote his DJO, and the police are called, he'll go to big boy jail because he's 17 now. Even so, because he is NOT 18 - not for 9 months and 13 days - we are responsible and have to take him in. No matter what he does. Basically, in our state, kids can do whatever the heck they want and we have to let them in.
So, I'm recovering from all the drama the last 4 days. Writing again, taking care of the rest of the family, but not really sleeping well. Guess that's not so bad, considering!
In summation:
Last Saturday, GFG17 came home, I talked to him and said he MUST follow the rules because he was making me nuts and wearing me out. Which, of course, is his plan, but I was desperate. It's just never-ending, as you all know. So I said he had a choice, the first real-time, real-world decision - stay and follow the rules, or leave. He left.
Came back a few hours later, had done some laundry, then left again - without his clothes or anything. I didn't hear from him till the next day, and he wouldn't tell me where he was until Tuesday.
After he left, we found all sorts of interesting things in his car, including condoms and motel receipt. Nice. More and more stuff came to light - of course, he had told me that things would be fine if *I* would stop finding out the bad stuff. Whatever.
On Monday I talked to his DJO - naturally, the judge is out-of-town all week, but she wrote up a probation violation - turns out he was 100+ miles away, staying with a so-called adult, so I least I knew he was relatively safe. He texted me on Tuesday, after talking to his DJO, that he was coming home that night. I had more convos with the DJO, and with my lawyer. I was NOT looking forward to difficult child coming home and hanging out with me all week until the judge returns. He hasn't had his medications - Risperdone - since Sat. morning. Of course, any violence or threats and we'll immediately call the police.
THEN he texted and asked if he could stay there till Saturday, when he could get a ride home. Um, call your DJO, kiddo, and ask her - I am NOT making this call. So that's what he's doing. No idea if he called her or not, 'cause I really needed a break from talking about him, ya know?
And yes, there are options - if the court will utilize them. He could go back to detention; he could go to DYS; if "acts like a fool", to quote his DJO, and the police are called, he'll go to big boy jail because he's 17 now. Even so, because he is NOT 18 - not for 9 months and 13 days - we are responsible and have to take him in. No matter what he does. Basically, in our state, kids can do whatever the heck they want and we have to let them in.
So, I'm recovering from all the drama the last 4 days. Writing again, taking care of the rest of the family, but not really sleeping well. Guess that's not so bad, considering!
