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<blockquote data-quote="lfpo76" data-source="post: 744035" data-attributes="member: 23410"><p>Thank you very much for taking the time to share your thoughts on this! Yes, it's been very difficult. To add to it, I learned yesterday that it seems it was the school that filed assault charges on my older son, not the parents of the other student (at least from what I can tell). I've had both another officer at the school police dept and now the lady with the juvenile probation dept (he's not on probation but they're the first point of contact when a charge is filed) tell me the report is very poorly written and does not include any information with regard to the other student's injury, but he was charged with Assault Bodily Injury and the prosecutor accepted it. </p><p></p><p>I'm concerned about how the stress and stigma is affecting him. I have a dr. appnt for an assessment for him next week, to see if he may need other supports. They think he will probably just get a deferred adjudication and it will never go on his record but we have to spend $2-3k to retain an attorney. </p><p></p><p>It's all just so ridiculous. It could have been handled in a very different way that would have provided much more effective consequences. The school district is well respected and the high school in particular is top 25 in our very large city, including all the surrounding suburbs. BUT, my view is if your kid is not fitting in the way they want them to, they will do what they can to get them out. Sadly, this is the second time this school district has filed a charge on my boys. </p><p></p><p>Not sure if I mentioned in the original post, but they did it when my younger son was in 7th grade, had a meltdown, and broke his school tablet on the ground. Never provided any resources or counseling, just charged him with destruction of school property, had him arrested at the school the next day, and sent him to the alternative campus. So them charging my older son with a misdemeanor assault is the second time - somehow I just realized this last night. I'm seeing his self esteem just plummet. </p><p></p><p>What he did was such a poor choice and I am working to get him help managing his anger. But I honestly see this type of thing as little more than a school to prison pipeline for young boys, and it pisses me off. I would pull them out in a second if I had the $40-60k annual tuition for private school for both of them - somewhere they would be supported that didn't treat them like kid criminals, and had a structure more conducive to different types of kids. My husband and I have a fairly high combined income, but it still isn't practical for us. If things don't improve, I'll have to look into charter schools or some other option.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lfpo76, post: 744035, member: 23410"] Thank you very much for taking the time to share your thoughts on this! Yes, it's been very difficult. To add to it, I learned yesterday that it seems it was the school that filed assault charges on my older son, not the parents of the other student (at least from what I can tell). I've had both another officer at the school police dept and now the lady with the juvenile probation dept (he's not on probation but they're the first point of contact when a charge is filed) tell me the report is very poorly written and does not include any information with regard to the other student's injury, but he was charged with Assault Bodily Injury and the prosecutor accepted it. I'm concerned about how the stress and stigma is affecting him. I have a dr. appnt for an assessment for him next week, to see if he may need other supports. They think he will probably just get a deferred adjudication and it will never go on his record but we have to spend $2-3k to retain an attorney. It's all just so ridiculous. It could have been handled in a very different way that would have provided much more effective consequences. The school district is well respected and the high school in particular is top 25 in our very large city, including all the surrounding suburbs. BUT, my view is if your kid is not fitting in the way they want them to, they will do what they can to get them out. Sadly, this is the second time this school district has filed a charge on my boys. Not sure if I mentioned in the original post, but they did it when my younger son was in 7th grade, had a meltdown, and broke his school tablet on the ground. Never provided any resources or counseling, just charged him with destruction of school property, had him arrested at the school the next day, and sent him to the alternative campus. So them charging my older son with a misdemeanor assault is the second time - somehow I just realized this last night. I'm seeing his self esteem just plummet. What he did was such a poor choice and I am working to get him help managing his anger. But I honestly see this type of thing as little more than a school to prison pipeline for young boys, and it pisses me off. I would pull them out in a second if I had the $40-60k annual tuition for private school for both of them - somewhere they would be supported that didn't treat them like kid criminals, and had a structure more conducive to different types of kids. My husband and I have a fairly high combined income, but it still isn't practical for us. If things don't improve, I'll have to look into charter schools or some other option. [/QUOTE]
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