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<blockquote data-quote="Tymica" data-source="post: 626743" data-attributes="member: 17612"><p>Well, difficult child has been home from rehab for a little over a month now. We allowed him to have his facebook back (with intensive monitoring) and he has been given a little bit of freedom to leave the house (go to friends house only if I know the parents and then you must call from parent's phone and I must speak to parent every hour on the hour or I am coming to said friends house to find you). He hasn't been resentful of the restrictions like I thought he would be, he knows and understands why we are doing this. But now he is asking for more and more. I would think a normal almost 17 year old would have a lot of freedom, but at this point I just can't see myself treating him as a normal 17 year old and I don't know when I will be to the point that I can. He has been drug tested weekly by either the JO rehab or us, hes been working, he is working on his lifeguard certification so he can get a 2nd job over the summer, and as far as I can tell has lived up to all of our rules and expectations (except maybe keeping up on his chores and not sleeping until noon, but he is after all a teenager) so why do I feel this knot like I am doing things all wrong? Every instinct in me says I need to padlock the doors and never let him out of my sight again, and then another part of me says he is going to do whatever he is going to do, and I can't stop that so just let him do what he wants. So I'm just having a hard time finding middle ground now, even though I have no reason to believe he is doing anything wrong. Anyone else with this issue?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tymica, post: 626743, member: 17612"] Well, difficult child has been home from rehab for a little over a month now. We allowed him to have his facebook back (with intensive monitoring) and he has been given a little bit of freedom to leave the house (go to friends house only if I know the parents and then you must call from parent's phone and I must speak to parent every hour on the hour or I am coming to said friends house to find you). He hasn't been resentful of the restrictions like I thought he would be, he knows and understands why we are doing this. But now he is asking for more and more. I would think a normal almost 17 year old would have a lot of freedom, but at this point I just can't see myself treating him as a normal 17 year old and I don't know when I will be to the point that I can. He has been drug tested weekly by either the JO rehab or us, hes been working, he is working on his lifeguard certification so he can get a 2nd job over the summer, and as far as I can tell has lived up to all of our rules and expectations (except maybe keeping up on his chores and not sleeping until noon, but he is after all a teenager) so why do I feel this knot like I am doing things all wrong? Every instinct in me says I need to padlock the doors and never let him out of my sight again, and then another part of me says he is going to do whatever he is going to do, and I can't stop that so just let him do what he wants. So I'm just having a hard time finding middle ground now, even though I have no reason to believe he is doing anything wrong. Anyone else with this issue? [/QUOTE]
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