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Inclusion vs. Exclusion- blog draft concerning families
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 675359" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>The threat of exclusion is itself a powerful tool for keeping family members in line. Once we can see the practice of exclusion for the tool that it is, and especially once we understand we are not the only ones this kind of thing happens to, it is a less hurtful thing.</p><p></p><p>But it still is so stupidly hurtful a way to run a family. And not all families exclude (or shun). So just that it is happening to you (or to me) indicates that it is the family that is dysfunctional.</p><p></p><p>If you have been shunned or excluded and have survived growing up in an environment where that kind of behavior is tolerated or even, encouraged (as it is in my Family of Origin, where it is used with zero finesse but to great effect), then count your lucky stars that you made it out of there with your heart intact.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 675359, member: 17461"] Yes. The threat of exclusion is itself a powerful tool for keeping family members in line. Once we can see the practice of exclusion for the tool that it is, and especially once we understand we are not the only ones this kind of thing happens to, it is a less hurtful thing. But it still is so stupidly hurtful a way to run a family. And not all families exclude (or shun). So just that it is happening to you (or to me) indicates that it is the family that is dysfunctional. If you have been shunned or excluded and have survived growing up in an environment where that kind of behavior is tolerated or even, encouraged (as it is in my Family of Origin, where it is used with zero finesse but to great effect), then count your lucky stars that you made it out of there with your heart intact. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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